Sce the 13th century the Catholic Church has measured consanguity accordg to what is called perhaps confusgly the civil-law method Under this method the degree relationship between leal relatives (i.e a man and his grandfather) is simply equal to the number generations between them However the degree relationship between colral (non-leal) relatives equals the number lks the family tree from one person up to the common ancestor and then back to the other person Thus brothers are red the second degree and first couss the fourth degree. Ahmad Teebi lks the crease cous Qatar and other Arab states the Persian Gulf to tribal tradition and the region's expandg economies "Rich families tend to marry rich families and from their own – and the rich like to protect their wealth," he said "So it's partly economic and it's also partly cultural." regard to the higher rates genetic disease these societies he says: "It's certaly a problem," but also that "The issue here is not the cous the issue here is to avoid the disease." The burdens life weigh heavily upon the shoulders men sce they are responsible for matag and supportg their families fulfillg this responsibility the man the household must confront many problems and obstacles outside the home Some these problems may be the pressures work the hassles traffic and commutg from the fice to home concerns over economical and political issues the day empathy and concern for friends and colleagues and the pressures tryg to improve the livg conditions his family The amount preoccupations and pressures upon a responsible man is enormous and multifaceted It is no wonder that the average lifespan a man is less than. But an ill-natured person would likewise fd life unpleasant sce the relationship such people promote anxiety and tension Such a person enjoys complag and voicg one's dissonance with life This type attitude is avoided by most people whereby the person ends up with very few friends these are then the conditions which are susceptible to various psychological problems and other illnesses due to the anxiety and emptess with which the person with a bad attitude views life "The Holy Prophet (S) stated: 'A person with a bad disposition and attitude would be permanent agony and sufferg'.”27 A good and pleasant attitude is essential between all people general and between couples particular sce the couple must be together to form a. "a man married to a high-school passed girl said the court: 'My wife refuses to do any housework Every time I protested she said that housekeepg was not meant for an educated woman She is not prepared to change and even asks me to divorce her and marry a maid stead! Two nights ago I vited my wife's relatives and friends for dner At dner time I spread the table cloth and placed my wife's framed certificate high school the middle I then told everyone to observe the dner that my wife prepares for me every night'."93 Now let us read the opion a few educated women about beg a housewife: "Mrs F N Shamirani a graduate said: 'A housewife should be an expert dealg with the household affairs a good companion for her husband a good mother to her children and a good hostess to the guests'." Gerd Rüdiger Pu (born 1940) is a German scholar and one the world’s leadg authorities on Qur'anic historical orthography the study and scholarly terpretation ancient manuscripts He is also specialist Arabic paleography He was a lecturer based at Saarland University Saarbrücken Germany Christopher Marlowe (1564 – 1593) was an English poet and translator the Elizabethan era who also rivalled Shakespeare as the most powerful dramatist the Elizabethan period Tamburlae: Now Casane where’s the Turkish Alcoran And all the heaps superstitious books Found the temples that Mahomet Whom I have thought a god? they shall be burnt Usumcasane: Here they are my lord Tamburlae: Well said! let there be a fire presently [They light a fire.] va I see men worship Mahomet: My sword hath sent millions Turks to hell Slew all his priests his ksmen and his friends And yet I live untouch’d by Mahomet There is a God full revengg wrath }From whom the thunder and the lightng breaks Whose scourge I am and him will I obey So Casane; flg them the fire.— [They burn.
Always keep your house clean and tidy Dust it f once a day and remove all stas and dirt from the walls doors wdows furniture and other items Keep the garbage a covered dustb; keep it away from the other rooms and kitchen Empty the dustb regularly Do not keep the garbage front your house Do not let your children urate the garden or the yard and if they did wash the place immediately Dirt is a center for dangerous microbes Do not pile up dirty dishes Wash them as soon as possible Do not forget that deadly germs grow on dirt and can become fatal to you and your family Wash the dishes with clean water and afterwards keep them a clean place Remove all dirty clothes especially babies' nappies from the vicity all rooms and kitchen and wash them as soon as possible If a person is generous and charitable with the wealth that he has acquired from hard work the appreciation and notice given response to such acts will warm that person's ner feelgs and give him a feelg accomplishment Acts goodwill may then become second nature to the person whereby it becomes a habit to spend and share one's wealth for those need However if the acts goodwill are taken for granted and unappreciated the person may lose the desire and drive to do good It would be natural for a person to conclude that it was a waste to give away his hard earned money when it was unappreciated Gratitude and appreciation are admirable characteristics a person and it is the secret by which one may attract charitable acts Even Allah has mentioned that gratitude for His blessgs are conditional on the contual perpetuation his grace. Andrey Korotayev claimed that ization was a strong and significant predictor parallel cous (father's brother's daughter – FBD) He has shown that while a clear functional connection exists between and FBD the prescription to marry a FBD does not appear to be sufficient to persuade people to actually marry thus even if the brgs with it economic advantages Accordg to Korotayev a systematic acceptance parallel-cous took place when ization occurred together with Arabization. If you have some ideas on handlg the problems share them with your husband If not may be you can suggest a good friend who is more qualified Dr Babasaheb Ambedkar was dependent dia's first law mister and the prcipal architect the Constitution dia Theodor Nöldeke (1836 – 1930) was a celebrated German Semitic scholar who 1859 won the prize the French Académie des scriptions et Belles-Lettres for his "History the Qur'an" Obviously men up to a certa extent have a pot Women comparison with men are more under the fluence their emotions When women become angry it would be difficult for them to control themselves and by knowg their husbands' secrets they could put their men trouble Therefore if a woman is terested knowg her husband's secrets she must be very careful not to speak them anywhere without his permission She must not even tell her best friends or relatives It is not keepg a secret if you tell someone about it and ask him not to repeat it to anybody otherwise everyone will fd out about it Therefore a wise person is one who does not tell his secret to anyone "Imam Ali (a.s) stated: 'The chest a wise man is the safe for his secrets'." 74 Thomas Jefferson (1743 – 1826) was the third President the United States and the prcipal author the Declaration dependence Jefferson was one the most fluential Foundg Fathers known for his promotion the ideals republicanism the United States reference to the ic slave trade Americans and Europeans by the Barbary states Jefferson asked Tripoli's envoy to London Ambassador Sidi Haji Abdrahaman by what right he extorted money and took slaves this way He answered: Any faithful and fervent man would have such a wish A woman's social behaviour which is based on ic ethics would set her husband's md at rest; he would then work enthusiastically to provide for his family and his affection for his wife would crease Such a man would not be attracted to other women On the contrary a man whose wife is not concerned m with ic Hijab and displays her beauty to other men or socializes with them would seriously become upset He would regard his wife as responsible for tramplg over his rights Such a husband would always suffer from distress and pessimism and his love for his family may gradually fade away It is therefore the terest society and women that they should be dressed modestly and behave humbly; they should appear public without any make-up and should absta from showg f their beauty to others Observg Hijab is an ic duty The Almighty Allah says the Holy Qur’an: Children first-cous s may have an creased risk genetic disorders particularly if their parents both carry a harmful recessive mutation but this can only be estimated empirically and those estimates are likely to be specific to particular populations specific environments Children more distantly red couss have less risk genetic disorders fact a study Icelandic records dicated that s between third or fourth couss (people with common great-great- or great-great-great-grandparents) may produce the most children and grandchildren. François-Marie Arouet (1694 – 1778) better known by the pen name Voltaire was a French Enlightenment writer and philosopher famous for his wit and for his advocacy civil liberties cludg freedom religion and. George Bernard Shaw (1856 – 1950) was an Irish playwright and a co-founder the London School Economics He is the only person to have been awarded both a Nobel Prize for Literature (1925) and. Dear Madam! We cannot make the world accordg to our wishes but we can adapt ourselves to the existg situation Your husband needs to have a job to earn his family's livg His job has certa conditions which you must adapt to You must program your family life accordg to his job Why do you grumble and fd fault with his job? Welcome him home with a happy face and be kd to him Be wise and cope with his job If your husband is a driver who is mostly on the road then realize that he is tryg to brg money home for your sake and the children's There is nothg wrong with his job He is a part society and is servg it the best way he can Would it have been better if he was a lazy person or if he was engaged an irreligious job? So there is nothg wrong with him The fault lies with you expectg him to be at home every night and not beg able or not wantg to adapt yourself to the present conditions Consequently he has to cope with both sides and keep them satisfied which itself is a difficult task The only possible way to ease the situation is that the woman should be loyal and wise A man this situation expects his wife to help solve the problem If the wife respects her mother--law seeks advice from her and becomes obedient and friendly with her then the mother--law will be her greatest supporter Is it not sad that one who can attract many people through kdness and good manners should repulse them through stubbornness and selfishness? Do you not realize that the ups and downs life one might need the help others and especially relatives who would support you when everyone else deserts you? Is it not better to enjoy a good relationship with one's relatives through consideration and good behaviour? Is it really wise and fair to become friends with strangers while breakg away from your own relations? A woman may scerely love her husband but does not show it or express it very ten It is not enough to establish the ties friendship and take it for granted Occasional expressions statements such a "I love you," "I missed you," "I am happy to see you," help enormously promotg a good relationship When the husband is on a trip the woman should write letters expressg that she missed him If there is a telephone at the man's fice the wife should phone him occasionally but not excess She should praise him among friends and relatives when he is absent and defend him if anyone is talkg agast him The Almighty Allah refers to this bond love and affection a husband and wife the Qur'an: "imam Ali (a.s) stated: 'Washg one's hands before havg meals would prolong life prevent one's clothes from becomg dirty and would enlighten one's eyes',"111 A Tidy House A tidy house is preferred to an untidy one many ways Firstly the tidess helps the house look clean attractive and beautiful An arranged house does not bore one but would be a source joy and happess Secondly the job house-keepg would be easier a well-ordered house and the housewife by knowg the exact location the household contents would not waste time to look for them As a result the woman would not become tired with her job Thirdly it attracts the man to his house and his wife A well-ordered house is representative the woman’s quality Life is full ups and downs The wheels fortune do not always rotate accordg to our desires One goes through many difficult times Everyone becomes ill Many lose their jobs and some may lose all their wealth Many unpleasant cidents happen the lives everyone A man and a woman who have sworn allegiance to each others and signed a covenant should walk along the path life hand hand The covenant should be so firm that it could hold them together sickness and health richer and poorer and good as well as. Wise and experienced men do not need to be controlled Such men always act wisely; they cannot be deceived; they know both their friends and their foes However there are men who are simple; they can easily be deceived and would easily be fluenced by others There are people who are impostors and are lyg wait for simple men The impostor though pretendg to be a good-doer traps the man and draws him towards corruption The corrupt society and the unyieldg nature humans does not help the situation The simple man may not realize his situation for a while but one day he wakes up and fds himself deep a trap from which there is not any escape If you look around yourself you see tens such unfortunate people Perhaps none them tended to fall the trap or become corrupt but through their own simplicity ignorance and unthoughtfulness they are now preyed upon by the corrupt society Nobody is perfect Some are too tail or too short or too fat or too skny have a big nose or a small one talk too much or are too silent are bad-tempered or too easy-gog have a very dark complexion or a very fair complexion or eat too much or too less and the list can contue Most men and women have some these shortcomgs It is the hope every man and woman to fd a spouse who is perfect but such hopes are unrealistic It is unlikely to fd a woman who regards her husband as perfect If you are fed up with your husband if you prefer to be a widow or if you want to murder your husband without the risks beg prosecuted by the police -then you will not have to do much Just put plenty delicious and fatteng foods before him Encourage him to eat as much bread rice and cakes as possible Consequently you will get rid him and not only will you become a widow but he would also thank you for feedg him with all these delicious foods You may suggest that such a program is possible for the wealthy people who can afford to buy any type food they wish You may thk it impossible for those who are not so. "the Prophet (S) stated: ' Any woman who perfumes herself and leaves the house is deprived from the blessgs the Almighty Allah until she returns home'."69 "The Prophet (S) also stated: 'The best your women is one who is obedient towards her husband adorns herself for her husband but does not reveal her adornment to strangers; and the worst your women is one who adorns herself the absence her husband'." 70 Through patience and wisdom you should remove the dangers which are threateng the foundation your sacred family life You would then cure your wife's illness as well as save your children from unhappess You would do a great deal service to yourself both mentally and materialistically Moreover Allah rewards men who are willg to sacrifice at vital moments such as this "Imam Ali (a.s) stated: ' Act moderately with the women every stance Speak to them nicely order that their deeds become good'."58 "Imam Sajjad (a.s) stated: 'One the rights a woman upon her husband is that he should forgive her ignorance and foolishness'."59 "a woman said: 'We had a good tradition Iran which has unfortunately faded away gradually this tradition the man used to be charge the family affairs He used to be the boss Nowadays however the situation is changed and families cannot make their mds up as to who should be charge I believe that the woman today who more or less have the same social status as men should accept her husband as the chief the house This old tradition has to be recommended to today's young woman who tends to marry She should enter her husband's house wearg a weddg dress and come out it wearg a shroud'." 76 It is customary with most women that whenever they go to a party or a gatherg they wear their best dresses and adorn themselves with the best However upon returng home they take their dresses f and put on an old and shabby dress These women are not particular about cleanless at home and do not beautify themselves They walk around the house with disheveled hair staed clothes and torn socks fact the situation must almost be reverse that is a woman should adorn herself at home and charm her husband order to conquer his heart and order not to leave any gap for other women to fill Why should she look beautiful for others? Is it proper for a woman to expose her beauty before the eyes other men and to create problems for. Why should you exaggerate a trivial fault? Why should you shatter your life for the sake somethg unimportant? Be wise? Stop beg frivolous! Ignore the faults and do not mention them front or behd your husband Try to create a warm atmosphere your family and enjoy the blessgs Allah However there may be flaws your husband's character which you may be able to correct If so then you can succeed only by behavg considerately and with patience You must not criticize him or start a row but approach him a friendly manner The Ahlul Bayt DILP operates through the collaborative effort volunteers based many countries around the world Register with Al-.org to collaborate creatg the World's largest Digital ic Library on the ternet Support Us The Al-.org site and the DILP are entirely supported by dividual donors and well wishers If you regularly visit this site and wish to show your appreciation or if you wish to see further development Al-.org please donate onle The Bhavishya Purana is one the eighteen major Hdu Puranas It is written Sanskrit and attributed to Rishi Vyasa the compiler. "a woman asked the Prophet (S) Allah: 'What are the rights a husband over his wife?' The Prophet (S) stated: 'She must be obedient towards him must not vio his orders and should not give away anythg without his permission'." 126 "The Prophet Allah (S) also stated: 'The best your women is one who spends less' 127 Careers women It is right that earng a family's livg is an obligatory deed the man and that women are not ically (as per ic laws) responsible for this act Women however should also have a job idleness is discredited and reproached "imam Baqir (a.s) stated: 'Choose noble women to feed (your children) with their milk because the base qualities milk are passed from the feedg woman to the child'." 145 You must feed your baby at defite tervals Your child gets used to this regularity and helps him beg patient It also helps him with regard to a healthy digestive system and stomach On the other hand if you feed the baby whenever he cries then he will not learn to be discipled If he gets what he wants through cryg then he will pick up this attitude and use it even when he becomes an adult He will not have the necessary patience when confrontg hardships He will either use force to achieve his own wishes or he will break down under difficulties Sce the wives' mothers are unaware this pot then their own mds they try to make their son--law act accordg to their desires They try directly and directly to terfere their family affairs They use their young daughters who are experienced and not quite aware their situations order to fluence the sons--law The mothers constantly tell their daughters how to act what to do what to say and what not to say The poor daughter who regards her mother as sympathetic and experienced obeys her and commits herself to the mother's desires too The reader has certaly come across such women but it is useful to know the followg cases: "A woman said the family court: 'Do not be surprised as to why after twelve years married life and three small children I have decided upon a separation from my husband I am now certa that my husband is unfaithful to me A few days ago I saw him with an attractive woman walkg the street I read a weekly magaze which has a proper section on fortune tellg Every week my husband's horoscope it mentions that he would have good times with the people who are born the month June I was born February; so I am not one those people mentioned the horoscope Besides I feel my husband is not as lovg towards me as he used. Those women who are search faults their husbands will undoubtedly fd them They would fd a trivial shortcomg and exaggerate it by dealg on the matter to the pot that it becomes an unbearable impediment This defect then replaces all the merits the husband They always compare their husbands with other men They have established a so-called ideal man their imagations whose standards do not fit their husbands Therefore they are always complag about the shortcomgs their The women regard themselves as unfortunates and failures which gradually turn them to spiteful women First: Luxury goods and vyg with one another has made life difficult for many us Household goods which are meant to serve our comfort have turned to a means showg f and ostentation Thus people are tendg to associate less frequently with each other Although many who are willg to socialize refuse to do so because they have the wrong idea that they do not possess many luxurious items their homes that it would be better to keep away from others and save themselves the embarrassment This reflection destroys one's situation the life after death as well as placg him a difficult situation. Fifth: Therefore it is not wise for you to argue with you r husband or make complats to the court Do not talk about divorce and do not degrade him Such an attitude will only lead to more anger and rows which may result divorce Be careful not to act foolishly or decide to commit suicide By killg yourself not only would you lose this life but you would also be tormented the next world Is it not sad to lose your life for the sake a baseless thought? Is it not better to solve your problems through patience and wisdom? Sixth: If you are still suspicious your husband or you reach the conclusion that he is certaly havg an affair then aga you are to be blamed because you have not tried enough to w his heart You have placed a gap his life which other woman can fd a place But do not despair; there is still time Review your attitude and act a manner that would attract your husband towards you "the Prophet Allah (S) stated: 'The Paradise is under the feet mothers'." 140 Small children today are the men and women tomorrow Whatever lessons they learn now they will practice future societies If families improve the society will progress because societies are no more than a collection families Tomorrow's world will suffer with today's bad- tempered stubborn ignorant cowardly materialistic nasty careless selfish and cruel children On the contrary tomorrow's world will benefit from today's children who are honest well mannered generous brave just trustworthy etc "one doctor testified court: 'I have not yet seen my wife act like a proper housewife durg all my married life Our house is always a mess She is always shoutg and abusg I am fed up with her' After payg her a lump sum money he received divorce He said joyfully: 'If she had wanted and had asked for all my wealth and even my medical degree I would have given it to get rid her sooner',"25 Thk a little about your country men and women who are livg happily mud and brick houses and would not give any heed to the luxuries city life and their beautiful castle-like houses Thk their needs and deprivations If you can help them then do not hesitate and encourage your husband to be helpful to them If you are wise and perform your duty then you can live comfortably the new place You can be helpful towards your husband's progress This way you would be known as a respected and devoted wife You will be loved by your husband and would earn popularity amongst the people Moreover Allah will be satisfied. These kids don't help at all the house-work I wish I didn't have any children at all! By the way your sister was here today I don't know what was wrong with her; she acted as if I had swallowed her father's heritance May God save me from your mother! She has been talkg ill about me behd my back I am fed up with all them Also I cut my fger badly with a knife today I wish I'd not gone to Muhammad's weddg yesterday You should have seen Rashid's wife! What an outfit! Allah should give me the same luck! Some men really love their wives and buy them beautiful thgs They are real husbands When Rashid entered everybody respected him It's true that people are only terested what you're wearg What has she got that I haven't? Why should she show f front me?! Oh yes she is fortunate to have a husband who loves her he isn't like you! I can't stand this damned house any longer lookg after your and your children So do what. Fourth: If the pro your husband's guilt is not a firm pro towards your husband's guilt if your friends and relatives thk that the evidence is not enough if your husband regards himself as not guilty and fally if you are still suspicious him then you can be sure that you are ill You are sufferg from a mental disorder which the element suspicion has grown beyond your control It is vital for you to turn to a psychiatrist who could treat you accordgly William Montgomery Watt (1909 – 2006) was a Scottish historian an Emeritus Pressor Arabic and ic Studies at the University Edburgh Watt was one the foremost non-Muslim terpreters the West was an enormously fluential scholar the field ic studies and a much-revered name for many Muslims all over. Muslims have practiced s between first couss non-prohibited countries sce the time Muhammad a few countries the most common type is between paternal couss. John Qucy Adams (1767 – 1848) was the sixth President the United States He was also an American diplomat and served both the Senate and House Representatives (B) Secondly she should show him as much kdness as possible She should advise him and remd him the grim consequences his deeds She should even cry and beg him to give up his bad companions She must say to him: "I love you from the bottom my heart I am proud you I prefer you to all thgs and I am ready to devote myself to you But I am saddened by one thg; why should a man like you have these kds friends; or attend that kd a party? Such deeds are not suitable for you Please give them up" The wife must contue this attitude until she conquers the heart her husband It is possible that the husband is used to unworthy habits and that he would not be fluenced easily but the wife should not become disappoted She should pursue her goal with greater strength and patience Umm-E-Salamah said: 'O Rasul-Allah (Messenger (SA) Allah)! May my parents be sacrificed for you please state other rewards for women' The Prophet Allah (S) stated: 'When a woman becomes pregnant Allah rewards her as much as He would to someone who goes for Jihad (holy war) with all his wealth and life Then when she delivers her baby a call would reach her statg 'all your ss are forgiven; start a new life aga.' Each time she feeds her baby with her milk Allah gives her reward equal to that freeg a slave for. Turan Dursun (1934 – 4 September 1990) was a Turkish ic scholar and writer He was also formerly the Mufti Sivas before becomg an atheist and his eventual assassation. On the other hand her mother--law regards herself as the owner her son and daughter--law The mother tries hard to hold on to her son and is watchful that the new woman does not try to possess him fully She may fabricate lies about her daughter--law or fd fault her Such an attitude might be followed by many arguments and even occasional hostilities The situation becomes even worse if they all live the same house Even though a row may occur between two women the real anguish and distress remas with the man the middle "a woman asked the Prophet (S) Allah: 'What is the duty a woman with regard to her husband?' The Prophet (S) stated: 'She must obey him and must not vio his orders'." 78 "The Prophet Allah (S) also stated: 'The worst women is one who is stubborn and obstate'." 79 "The Prophet Allah (S) also stated: 'The worst women is one who is barren dirty obstate and disobedient'." 80 The judge said: 'He might have left them at his work' The young man said: 'My wife's suspiciousness towards me has grown so much that I have become suspicious her Every night I have nightmares I image that she is love with a man and wants to separate from me order to marry him' At this pot the young wife rushed towards her husband and while cryg for joy apologized to him and they both left. Is a natural necessity for every human beg It bears many good outcomes which the most important ones are: (1) The formation a family through which one can fd security and peace md A person who is not married resembles a bird without a nest serves as a shelter for anyone who feels lost the wilderness life; one can fd a partner life who would share one's joy and sorrow (2) The natural sexual desire is both strong and significant Everyone should have a partner for satisfyg their sexual needs a secure and serene environment Everyone should enjoy sexual satisfaction a correct and proper manner Those who absta from ten suffer from both physical and psychological disorders Such disorders and certa social problems are a direct consequence the abstence. What does such behaviour a woman do to her husband? He may be a very patient person who can tolerate his rudeness but most likely he will become sulted and develop a grudge agast her This would likely lead towards mutual arguments and elaborations the shortcomgs each other They will both become contemptuous each other and their life wit! turn to a series rows and arguments Thus they will either live misery together or go for a divorce either case both will lose especially when there is no guarantee that another may prove otherwise It is a pity that some women are ignorant and obstate their ignorance It is possible that they may shatter their family life over a trivial matter The followg are some illustrative cases. Rob Bennett a University Washgton researcher, has said that much hostility towards married couss constitutes discrimation It's a form discrimation that nobody talks about People worry about not gettg health surance — but sayg that someone shouldn't marry based on how they're red when there's no known harm to me is a form discrimation." Remember that your baby feels thirsty just as ten as you do Therefore feed him with water as well but do not try to make him drk tea or cfee Fruits vegetables and soups are especially useful for growg fants Do not forget to be hygienic with regard to your baby's beddg clothg and nappies Wash his face and hands ten Bathe him regularly because fants are very susceptible towards dirt and germs and become ill easily You must vaccate your children agast such diseases as smallpox chickenpox whoopg cough fantile paralysis scarlet fever measles and diphtheria Vacces are fortunately readily available medical and health centers You can have healthy children by observg these codes hygiene and cleanless William Hay was formerly the Pressor Oceanography at the University Colorado USA He is notable for havg been quote-med and misrepresented sce the 1980's by Muslim apologists makg claims scientific Qur'an "miracles" The housework comprises a great deal work If a housewife tends to carry out her job perfectly she would not have enough time to do anythg else This is especially true if she has to take care a few children as well But most housewives do fd some spare time Everyone spends his spare time one way or another Some women waste their time They might just walk the streets or fd another woman to talk to Most the time their few hours talkg are not worth a penny They would listen to repeated words which only prove to be time wastg and nerve breakg Such idle chattg always results one's moral degradation The women who go through life this way are surely losers this world and the next How surprisg it is that if anyone should lose some money he would become very upset but people do not give a thought about losg their precious moments life "imam Baqir (a.s.) stated: 'It is cumbent upon a woman to perfume herself to wear her best clothes to adorn herself the best way and to meet her husband this state day and night'."71 "Imam as-Sadiq (a.s.) stated: 'Women should not give up adornment be it only with a necklace She should not have untged hands be it with a little henna Even old women should not give up adornment'." 72 Dear lady! If you want to enjoy a pleasant life with your husband and children make your attitude and disposition pleasant and agreeable Be good-natured and not quarrelsome You have the ability to turn your house to a lty paradise or a burng hell You can be an angel mercy whereby your husband and children can fd peace through you Do you know what a beautiful impression you would leave on their souls with your smilg attitude and good language? The pleasant impression is fresh their mds as they start f to school or work and helps them to make a good start the day Therefore if you care about the quality your life and the relationship you have with your husband; do not be negative nature Be positive your attitude and disposition sce the best supportive pillar security to is a good set ethics leadg to a pleasant disposition The Doctra Jacobi (or 'Teachg Jacob') is a 7th century Greek Christian polemical tract written sometime between 634-640 AD The text provides one the earliest external accounts André Servier was an historian who lived French Algeria at the begng the 20th century Angela Carter (1940 – 1992) was an English novelist and journalist 2008 The Times ranked Carter tenth their list "The 50 greatest British writers sce 1945" 2012 Nights at the Circus was selected as the best ever wner the James Tait Black Memorial Prize
Dear Madam! Accept the authority your husband Seek his supervision your household affairs Do not vio his orders Do not resist or oppose his participation the household and family matters Do not reject his participation even those matters that you have more expertise Do not practically make him powerless Let him participate your work occasionally Teach your children to respect his authority and ask them to get permission from their father their affairs Your children must learn not to vio his orders from an early age This way your children will be brought up as obedient to their parents "the Prophet Allah (S) stated: 'Oh! Those you who claim to be Muslims but failed to let faith enter to your hearts do not speak ill Muslims and do not fd faults with them Whoever fd faults with people then Almighty Allah will be dog just the same while lookg to their faults; and that case they would be disgraced among the people even though they may rema their own houses'."63 Sir Wston Leonard Spencer-Churchill (1874 – 1965) was a British politician known chiefly for his leadership the United Kgdom durg World War II He is widely regarded as one the great wartime leaders and was voted the greatest Briton. (1) They can protect both their social worth and ner values much better and guard themselves agast just beg an object on display (2) They can prove both their faith and love for their husbands more effectively and thus help create and mata a warm family atmosphere while preventg ill-feelgs and family rows short they can w their husband's hearts and establish themselves their families (3) By observg ic Hijab unlawful flirtation looks by such people as ogles would cease and help lesseng the amount rows strengtheng the family roots and as a result create an atmosphere tranquility with its circle (4) ic Hijab women would also help prevent young unmarried men from deviatg from the right path Thus forestallg harm to the young men which would also benefit the women the society The status man is higher than such deeds Human begs are meant to tra themselves and their souls by gag knowledge committg good deeds and behavg with good manners Man is meant to take steps along the straight path to achieve nearness to Almighty Allah Mankd is a creation that is able to cleanse his soul and by avoidg evil deeds and exercisg good behavior reach a level such high status that even the angels are not able to atta Man is a creature that is eternal He has come to this world so that by the guidance the prophets and the implementation the programs set by the religion ( ) to secure his happess this world and the Hereafter; so that he could live a peaceful life the next world eternally One the negative characteristics some people is their speakg ill each other This characteristic is not only unpleasant by nature but it is also a cause much mischief It causes suspicion pessimism disharmony and strife among the people It destroys friendly atmospheres and sows the seed discord among families It separates men from their wives and it could lead to homicide Unfortunately this characteristic is so widespread among the people that it does not even seem bad any more a gatherg it is rare not to hear gossipg and backbitg Specially a women's gatherg the element gossip is domant When two women meet they start gossipg They talk slanderously others as if it is a competition They sometimes talk about their husbands For stance they discuss their looks or jobs and fd fault with the other woman's husband One woman would blame the other one for beg married to; say a mechanic or a shoemaker Praise him front others Ask your children to respect him and reprimand them if they are discourteous towards him Be respectful him front guests and be attentive to his needs as well as the guests When he is knockg at the door you should try to open the door with a smile and a happy expression This small act happess has such an effect that it refreshes the man's tired spirits Some women may thk that such behaviour is strange Image greetg your husband as if he was a guest This is not the correct attitude because the man has been strugglg all the day for the well-beg his family and he deserves some consideration and respect when he returns home That first greetg makes a big impression and what's good for a guest is good for the family members One may have to live away from one's hometown Your husband may be workg for the private or the public sector and sent on duty to another city or town also Some people live this way either temporarily or permanently Men are forced to cope with this situation but some women prefer to be near their parents and relatives These women are accustomed to the streets walls and the environment their place birth After movg away they blame their husbands and compla: "Why should I live away from my home? How long am I gog to be away from my home and my parents? I have no one this place What is this place you have brought me? I cannot stay here; so thk a. Speros Vryonis Jr (born 1928) is an American author and historian Greek descent and a specialist Greek and Byzante history He is pressor emeritus history at UCLA the former Director the Speros Basil Vryonis Center for the Study Hellenism and is currently the AHIF Senior Fellow for Hellenism and for Greek and Turkish Studies There is not anyone who does not have problems and grievances with regard to daily life Everyone likes to have a sympathetic person with whom he can confide and who will listen to his problems But the pot to remember is that "there is a time and place for everythg" One should realize the proper time and occasion to compla Some ignorant and selfish women do not realize that their husbands are very tired and nervous after a long day's work stead waitg an hour or two for him to rega his spirits they start attackg him with a barrage complats For stance the wife may say: "You have left me with these damned kids and rushed f Ahmad has broken the glass the door the front room Our daughters have been fightg I am gog crazy with the noise the kids outside Hasan does not study at all and he has secured poor marks I have been workg so hard today and I am exhausted Nobody listens to. "a man left some money with his wife and asked her to leave it a safe place and then put it on the mantle piece and left the house After a short while the man returned home and did not fd the money he had left He looked around the house anxiously and saw his five-year old boy burng somethg the garden The mother the boy angrily went up to him lifted him up and then threw him on the ground so hard that it killed the boy outright She was quite scared while lookg at her son's corpse when the man came out to the garden He started hittg her and then decided to go to the police He got on his motorcycle but on the way to the police station he had an accident He is now the tensive Care Unit'." 112 Who do you thk is guilty party this cident? You can judge for yourself Perhaps your know a similar occurrence "the teacher a girl said: 'She is one my students She has not been performg well her studies and looks to be sufferg from somethg She is always thkg She has even been sittg the courtyard the school unprepared to go back home.' Two days ago I asked her: 'Why she was not gog home?' She replied that she was livg with an old woman who was nasty to her and that she did not want her to returned home I asked about her parents and she said they were separated'."84 If your husband is a driver a doctor a worker or a scientist etc then you must be proud him Your husband is not an idle loafer or engaged an irreligious occupation So appreciate him and show your gratitude Do not expect him or ask him to leave his job but try to adapt to his existg one If he is readg or researchg on a particular field then do not disturb him You can do the housework read a book or with his permission go and visit your friends or relatives But when he is restg try to be at home Prepare his food and other requirements Receive your husband with a smilg face and good manners By showg your kdness and by pleasg him you can make him forget his tiredness If you are a good wife then not only you can expedite his promotion but also you are contributg to his services towards society Not all women deserve such hardworkg men So by beg well-mannered and sacrificg prove that you are worthy him "imam as-Sadiq (a.s) also stated: ' Any woman who says to her husband that she has not seen any good thgs from him then she has fallen her credibility and has voided her acts worship'."40 "The Messenger (SA) Allah stated: 'Whoever does not thank the people who help him is fact not showg his gratitude to Allah for His Blessgs'."41 Apart from the religion-based personal laws governg s the civil law named Special Act 1954 governs Those who do not wish to marry based on the personal laws governed by religious and cultural practices may opt for a under this law It defes the first-cous relationship both parallel and cross as prohibited Conflict may arise between the prohibited degrees based on this law and personal law but absence any other laws it is still unresolved. Untidy women blame their children for the house beg a state mess whereas it is the children who learn from their parents If the parents are tidy then the children would learn and children by nature are willg to be discipled Keep all your money important papers documents jewelry and certificates a safe or a place out the reach children It is not correct to punish a child for touchg destroyg or losg any the precious items that you have left with their reach The parents are the guilty ones and they should know better Accuracyspot checked DepthBasic ReadabilityAcceptable (C) Sce he is on the path to progress and shows terest readg then he becomes more attached to you and the children; he would not be drawn towards corrupt activities and would not fall to the trap fatal addictions Be Careful That He is Not Misled Men should have freedom their busess and associations order to be able to work and progress a way suitable to them If men are restricted their activities then they will not be comfortable A wise woman would not terfere with the affairs her husband She should not monitor his movements; because she should know that by denyg him the freedom he needs and by tryg to control his activities he may react severely Therefore any woman who cares for her family should not be fluenced by her mother's will and should not regard them as one hundred percent correct A wise and clever woman would always exame the suggestions and saygs her mother before implementg them her family life She should implement them if they did not contradict or endanger her family bonds this case the daughter should submit to the will her mother Otherwise if the daughter reaches the conclusion that her mother is ignorant and her suggestions lead to rows and arguments then she can reject her Anyway there are two choices for the daughter: (a) To go along with the desires her mother which case family arguments would follow; or (b) To ignore her mother and comply with her husband's desires Case (a): The man forms his wife that on Friday night ten his friends are comg for dner His wife who has had bitter experience with previous parties suddenly becomes enraged and protests to her husband After a detailed discussion and the husband's pleadg the reluctant wife agrees to arrange the dner for his guests They spend their days and nights a certa air restlessness and excitement until Friday On Friday morng one them goes for shoppg He remembers the necessary items to buy and after purchasg a few items returns home Famous cous s the United States clude Edgar Allan Poe Frankl D Roosevelt Albert Este and Jerry. Michael H Hart (born Ap New York City) is a Jewish American astrophysicist who has also written three books on history and controversial articles on a variety subjects Muhammad's success as a warlord and conqueror were one Hart's biggest reasons for placg him as the most fluential person history Charles-Louis de Secondat baron de La Brède et de Montesquieu (1689 – 1755) was a French social commentator and political thker A woman is not restricted to coverg herself to the same extent before her father--law her own brother and her nephews although it is better to observe a certa degree ic Hijab before these people too other words women should not appear before these relatives hers the same way as she would make herself attractive for her husband This is because most men dislike their wives to appear attractive by wearg attractive clothes and make up before other men; and course it should not be forgotten that the tranquility md and the trust a man his wife is crucial to the survival and security the whole family ‘The entire region which sustaed us from the Hellespont eastwards to the mountas Armenia has been snatched away They [the Turks] have razed cities pillaged churches opened graves and filled everythg with blood and corpses…Alas too they have even abused Christian bodies And havg taken away their entire wealth they have now taken away their freedom reducg them to the merest shadows slaves And with such dregs energy as rema these unfortunate people they are forced to be the servitors the Turk’s personal comforts.’ "the Prophet Allah (S) also stated: ' Add to the numbers your children because I on the Day Judgment will feel honored about the greatness your numbers over the other Ummahs'.'' 139 How ignorant are those who with various excuses refuse to have children and thus fight the prciple creation! (2) Educatg a Child The most sensitive responsibility a mother is her duty to educate and tra her children Although both the parents should share this responsibility it weighs more heavily on the shoulders mothers This is because a mother is able to constantly protect and monitor her child If mothers through a correct program try to brg up their children then a whole nation and even the world would undergo revolutionary changes Thus the progress or deterioration a society is the. Adolf Hitler (1889 – 1945) was an Austrian-born German politician and the leader the National Socialist German Workers Party commonly known as the. There never came agast Israel a more antagonistic nation They oppress us with the most oppressive measures to lessen our number reduce us and make us as despicable as they themselves are Kg David may he rest peace saw through Dive spiration all the calamities that were dested to come upon Israel Nevertheless [even though he saw all the other troubles] he still began to shout out and lament the name the whole nation agast the oppression that would be occasioned by the Ishmaelites David said “Woe is me that I sojourn Mesech that I dwell the tents Kedar!” [Psalms 120:5] Simon Ockley (1678 – 1720) was chosen Adams Pressor Arabic at Cambridge University 1711 He was educated at Queens' College Cambridge and graduated B.A 1697 MA 1701 and B.D 1710 Matriral cross-cous has been found by some anthropological researchers to be corred with patripotestal jural authority meang rights or obligations the father Accordg to some theories these kship systems a man marries his matriral cross-cous due to associatg her with his nurturant mother Due to this association possibly reforced by personal teraction with a specific cous he may become "fond" her renderg the relationship "sentimentally appropriate". terestgly patriral cross-cous is the rarest all types cous and there is some question as to whether it even exists. Jonathan Edwards (1703 – 1758) was a preacher theologian and missionary to Native Americans Edwards "is widely acknowledged to be America's most important and origal philosophical theologian," and one America's greatest tellectuals Gene Simmons (born Aug) is an American rock bass guitarist sger-songwriter record producer entrepreneur and actor He is the bass guitarist/co-lead vocalist the legendary rock. The purpose eatg is not to fill one's stomach but that it also supplies the body with all the nourishment it needs to contue its function The necessary nourishment for the body is contaed meat fruits vegetables and cereals and can be classified to six groups: (a) Water (b) Merals such as calcium phosphorus iron copper etc (c) Starchy substances (carbohydrates) (d) Fats (e) Protes and (f) Vitams like A B C D K The majority one's weight is water Water dissolves the solid food order to prepare it for absorption by the testes Water also regus the body's temperature The merals are necessary for the growth bones teeth and the regulation muscle functions Carbohydrates create energy and heat Prote helps the replacg old or dead cells causg the growth. Men are also advised not to be adamantly negative with regard to their wives' workg outside the house unless the job concerned is considered unsuitable for them (b) Ladies should observe proper ic Hijab (veil) when not at home They should go to work without any make up and with pla clothes They must avoid mixg with men who are not mahram as much as possible An fice is a place to work and is not for the purpose showg f or for rivalry Prestige and dignity does not come with what you wear but what you do and how well you do it Be and act as a dignified Muslim woman Mata your self-respect and do not hurt your husband's feelgs; save your adornments and your beautiful dresses for him. Gilbert Keith Chesterton (1874 – 1936) was an English writer His prolific and diverse output cluded philosophy ontology poetry play writg journalism public lecturg and debatg biography Christian apologetics fantasy and detective fiction A twenty-year old boy who had come to Tehran to study at the university fell love with a 39-year old widow who was his landlady This was because the woman had fulfilled the empty place his mother his heart through her Dear Madam! For the sake your husband and for the sake your own comfort as well as to fd many good friends and supporters put up with your husband's relatives Do not be selfish and ignorant; be wise and do not cause your husband any distress Be a good and devoted wife order to be accepted by both Allah and the people "a dentist complaed to the court and said: 'My wife is exceedgly jealous I am a dentist and there are women patients who come to my fice for treatment This has aroused my wife's jealousy and everyday we argue about it She believes that I should not accept women patients But I cannot lose my regular patients I love my wife and she loves me but this improper expectation hers is rug our lives A few days ago she came to my dental surgery and forced me to leave We went home and quarreled She said to me: 'I went to your surgery and sat beside a young girl the waitg room We talked about you and she without knowg that I was your wife said: 'The dentist is a handsome and well- mannered man' "The dentist went on sayg: 'On account a girl's opion my wife dragged me out the surgery a degradg manner'."56 Keep all the family clothes especially the underwear clean and tidy Wash the meat vegetables and all your food gredients before cookg Wash all fruits before eatg them because some fruits are sprayed with poisonous substances Wash your hands before eatg and teach your children to do the same After food one should wash one's hands and mouth If possible one should brush one's teeth after every meal Brushg one's teeth is essential at least once a day preferably before sleepg at night Cut your nails once a week Long nails are not hygienic because germs can live under long nails Take a bath at least once a week or if possible every other day One must remove all hair from under one's armpit as well as other places by shavg or other means Hidden hair on the body is a suitable place for the growg germs Do not leave food exposed to flies because flies are carriers many dangerous microbes The Far East South Korea is especially restrictive with bans on out to third couss with all couples havg the same surname and region orig havg been prohibited from marryg until 1997. Taiwan North Korea and the Philippes also prohibit first-cous  It is allowed Japan though the cidence has decled recent years. John Wesley (1703 – 1791) was a theologian and founder the English Methodist movement (E) Perhaps one his enemies has dropped the strand hair his car deliberately order to make you suspicious him (f) One his women colleagues might have been given a lift his car (g) There is also a probability that he had been out with his beloved But this case is far more remote than the previous ones and therefore should not be taken very seriously At least one should not regard it as firm evidence guilt while forgettg about the other possibilities If your husband comes back home he might have been dog extra work; or might have been at his friend's house; or might have attended a semar or a religious meetg; or he might even have walked back home If a woman thks him as a handsome man it is not his fault Beg well-behaved is not a pro beg guilty! Would you prefer him to be a bad-tempered man from whom everyone would be repulsed? Do not thk that to disciple a child is an impossible task You must just be patient and have a suitable program for trag him accordg to your standards The child nutritive experts say that a baby must be fed with milk once every three to four hours Hold your child your arms while feedg By embracg the child feels your love and it would even affect his/her future personality Do not feed the baby while lyg down because it has been seen that some mothers have fallen asleep while feedg their babies and as a result some babies have suffocated because their mother's breasts prevented them breathg If you do not have any milk yourself you can use cow's milk But sce cow's milk is much denser than mother's milk you must add some water to it You can also use pasteurized milk which you should boil for twenty mutes or until it becomes safe for babies' consumption Dear Madam! Be careful not to act mercilessly at a time when your husband suffers from a permanent illness; must you leave him and your children? How can you desert a man with whom you have had many joyful days and nights? How do you know that a similar fate is not awaitg you? How can you be sure that another man will be any better? Do not be stubborn and selfish Be sacrificial and devote yourself or the sake Allah as well as your honour and children Be patient and teach your children a lesson devotion love and patience You can be sure that this world and the next you will be rewarded handsomely Your devotion is the best way showg your care for your husband which is placed at the same level as Jihad "The Prophet Allah (S) stated: ' Jihad a woman is takg care her husband'."82 Dear Madam! Your husband probably makes mistakes He may sult you abuse you tell lies he might even hit you Such acts might be committed by any man If your husband after makg a mistake regrets it or you feel he is regretful himself for his misconduct then forgive him and do not pursue the matter If he is regretful but not prepared to express his apologies then do not try to prove his mistake Otherwise he might feel humiliated and he may retaliate by pickg out your mistakes and consequently start a major row So it is better for you to rema silent until he condemns himself from his conscience and starts to feel remorse about it He would then regard you as wise and devoted wife who is terested her husband and family "The Prophet Allah (S) stated: 'A bad woman does not forgive her husband's mistake and does not accept his apology'."49 Tony Blair (born 6 May 1953) is a Labour Party politician who served as the Prime Mister the United Kgdom from 1997 to 2007 He led Labour to a landslide victory 1997 The party went on to w two more elections under his leadership. Once a woman ponders over the consequences actg upon the selfish and foolish desires her mother or others then she should firmly decide to ignore all the talk as not to endanger her relationship with her husband She could tell her mother: "Now that I am married it is better for me to try to protect my and keep my husband satisfied I would rather treat him kdly because he is my partner He can make me happy and is able to help me He shares ail the ups and downs life with me He is my choice and if we have any difficulties we will try to solve them ourselves We can plan our lives Your terference may make a bad situation worse If you want us to have a good relationship with you then do not terfere our lives do not talk behd my husband otherwise I will have to cut f my relationship. Muhammad actually did marry two relatives. One was a first cous Zaynab bt Jahsh who was not only the daughter one his father's sisters but was also divorced from a with Muhammad's adopted son Zayd ibn Haritha It was the issue adoption and not cousship that caused controversy due to the opposition pre-ic. Why should you imprison yourself with these thoughts? Why should you upset the foundations your ? If any those wishes had come true how would you know that you would have been more satisfied? Are you sure that the wives those so-called "faultless" men are satisfied with them? Dear Madam! If your husband suspects that you show terest other men he would be disheartened and would lose terest you You must not cut jokes with other men or keep company with them Men are so sensitive that they cannot even tolerate their wives to show an terest a picture another man "The Holy Prophet (S) stated: 'Any married woman who looks at other men would be subject to the vehement. (A) First she should assess the situation at home; and should exame herself and her attitude She must fd out the reason for her husband's behavior She should fairly judge why he has grown cold towards his family and gone astray She may fd that her own attitude had been the cause; or perhaps she had been the cause; or perhaps she had been different to his desires for food her looks or the affairs the house Such matters draw men away from home They may then pursue outside deviant activities order to forget their problems The wife can ask her husband about his problems and try to help solve them If a woman corrected herself and changed the house accordg to his desires then she could be hopeful that her husband could be drawn back to his family and that he would avoid corrupt places Medices paraff petrol and poisonous substances should always be kept out the reach children Children drk and eat anythg which looks like water and food Do not endanger their lives by beg careless There are many children who die as the result their parents' carelessness "Two children a brother and a sister aged 6 and 4 years drank a solution DDT The four-year old girl died and her brother survived The children were on their own their house They drank the solution order to quench their thirst 'Their mother said the hospital that the solution was made to kill the mice her house ' "113 "Two children drank kerosene mistakenly thkg that it was water." "Another child swallowed ten her mother's tablets." "a woman asked the Prophet (S) Allah: 'What good (reward) is awaitg a woman who performs her duties her husband's house?' The Prophet (S) stated: 'For every activity that she does concerng the household matters Allah looks on her kdly and whoever enjoys the grace Allah would not be tormented'." 119 Secondly: The dietary needs people are not the same Age size the body and other possible factors determe the level our nutritional requirements For stance a child who is growg need more calcium comparison with a middle-aged person The youth need more energy providg food because they have more activities "dr Mrs Fasihi pediatrician said: 'I believe that a genue housewife is one who is not engaged fice work because fice jobs our country lack the necessary facilities regardg nutritional needs and nurseries A woman an fice is always worried about her children or her husband's food'." "Mrs S Yakita Technical Supertendent the Faculty Medice said: 'A housewife should be able to create a clean and attractive house with the least possible budget She should share the happy and sad time with her husband She must not ignore her husband's mental and social status'." "Mrs I Naimi said: ' A housewife is one who mimizes her unnecessary recreations and who would try to improve the affairs the house She must also be able to regu the come with spendg'."94 States have various laws regardg between couss and other close relatives, which volve factors cludg whether or not the parties to the are half-couss double couss fertile over 65 or whether it is a tradition prevalent a native or ancestry culture adoption status -law whether or not genetic counsellg is required and whether it is permitted to marry a first cous once removed. "umm-E-Salamah asked the Prophet (S): 'How much reward is there for a woman's housework?' The Prophet (S) replied: 'Any woman who the way improvg the order the house takes somethg from somewhere and places it somewhere else would enjoy the grace Allah and whoever attracts the blessgs Allah would not be tormented by Allah's anger' The Prophet Allah (S) stated: "At a time when two Muslims refuse to talk to each other and do not reconcile with three days both will be out and there will not rema any friendship between them Then anyone them who takes the itiative to reconcile with the other would enter Paradise faster (than the other) on the Day Judgment'."87 Rema Silent when he is Angry A man meets many people while at work and he comes across many problems Once he returns home from work he is tired and upon confrontg the smallest unpleasant cident becomes angry and may sult his family That these men then have no knowledge or love God is undeniably manifest not only from their gross horrible notions him but from their not lovg their brethren But they have not always so weighty a cause to hate and murder one another as difference opion Mahometans will butcher each other by thousands without so plausible a plea as this Why is it that such numbers Turks and Persians have stabbed one another cool blood ? Truly because they differ the manner dressg their head The Ottoman vehemently matas (for he has unquestionable tradition on his side) that a Mussulman should wear a round turban Whereas the Persian sists upon his liberty conscience and will wear it picked before So for this wonderful reason when a more plausible one is wantg they beat out each other's bras from generation to generation It is now evident why the fanatic Arab-Muslim states like Algeria Egypt and the Sudan have come out openly and massively to support and aid Nigeria her present war genocide agast us These states see militant Arabism as a powerful strument for attag power. Dear lady! at times difficulty your husband is need your attention and love You should come to his aid and nurse him like a sympathetic psychiatrist and wife What a psychiatrist could give the amount care that you would give? Do not underestimate your ability to soothe and strengthen him There is no one more devoted and concerned over your husband's well-beg other than yourself He would be able to draw strength from your devotions to him and cope with his problems which will relieve his emotional and mental pressures Consequently the mutual bond respect and love would also be greater which can only lead towards strengtheng your marital relationship " a tradition Imam as-Sadiq (a.s) stated: 'There is nothg better the world than a good wife And a good wife is the one whose husband becomes glad upon. A woman can turn the home to a lty paradise or a burng hell She can lead her husband to the peak success or the dregs misfortune The woman with the qualities bestowed on her by Allah who is aware her role as a spouse can elevate her husband to a respected man even if he had been the lowest all men "One learned scholar wrote: 'Women possess a strange power that they are able to acquire whatever they desire'."10 takg care one's husband has an important position It has been equated to the role Jihad (holy war the path Allah) "Imam Ali (a.s) stated: 'The Jihad a woman is to take care her husband well'."11 "imam as-Sadiq (a.s) stated: 'Washg dishes and cleang around the house creases the sustenance'," 103 "Imam as-Sadiq (a.s) also stated: 'Do not leave the dishes without a cover otherwise Satan spits at them and uses them'," 104 " addition Imam as-Sadiq (a.s) stated: 'Fruits are sprayed with poisonous substances so wash them before eatg'," 105 "Imam al-Kadhim (a.s) stated: 'Takg a bath every other day would fatten one'," 106 Our Biafran ancestors remaed immune from the ic contagion From the middle years the last century Christianity was established our land this way we came to be a predomantly Christian people We came to stand out as a non-Muslim island a ragg ic sea Throughout the period the ill-fated Nigerian experiment the Muslims hoped to filtrate Biafra by peaceful means and quiet propaganda but failed Then the Ahmadu Bello the Sarduana Sokoto tried by political and economic blackmail and terrorism to convert Biafrans settled Northern Nigeria to His hope was that these Biafrans on dispersion would then carry to Biafra and by so dog give the religion political control the area The crises which agitated the so-called dependent Nigeria from 1962 gave these aggressive proselytisers the chance to try convertg us. (E) If a woman feels that addition to the above works and responsibilities she should under take another job then she should defitely come to an understandg with her husband and take up a job with his permission and under his advice If the husband does not agree she should forget about this job If the husband agrees for the wife's undertakg a job she must try to select a job which she comes contact with mimum number strange men This is the terest both herself and the society any case while outside her home she must certaly observe ic Hijab and see that she remas simple and without any make-up "a young woman complaed to the court and said: 'My husband is comg home every night on account overtime at his work I have been worried about this and my suspicion has creased due to what our neighbours are sayg They say that my husband is lyg and he is not workg at night and that he goes after his pleasure As a result I am not prepared to live with a liar' At his pot the husband took out a few letters from his pocket and placed them on a counter before the judge and asked him to read them aloud order to prove his nocence and to stop his wife's improper attitude The judge started to read the letters aloud One the letters was dicative his overtime workg from 4 to 8 O'clock at night Other letters were also red to his work where he was asked to attend certa semars The wife came forward and after seeg the letters said: 'I used to search his pockets every night but I did not see any these letters' "the best and the most nourishg food is milk Milk contas all that is required for a healthy body Thus for a baby there is nothg more suitable than the mother's milk Sce milk contas gredients which are suitable for the baby's digestive system therefore there are not any problems feedg a baby with mother's milk Besides one does not need to boil it pasteurize it or sterilize it One also need not to worry about its genueness "Imam Ali (a.s) stated: 'There is no better and more copious food than mother's milk for. If the husband is a driver she would say: "Your husband is always travelg how can you cope with this?" If he is a butcher she would say: "Your husband always smells fat." If he is not earng much she would say: "How do you live with such little money? Why did you marry him? Is it not a pity that you with such a beauty have married such a short and puny man? How did your parents allow you to do this? Were they fed up with you? You could have married any man you wished Why did you choose this man? He does not take you anywhere not the cema not the theatre nowhere By the way your husband is such a grim faced man How can you live with him? How could you with all your education marry a peasant?" George Smith Patton Jr (1885 – 1945 AD) was a United States Army ficer most famous for his leadership commandg corps and armies as a general World War II To me it seems certa that the fatalistic teachgs Muhammad and the utter degradation women is the outstandg cause for the arrested development the Arab He is exactly as he was around the year 700 while we have kept on developg. G H Bousquet G H Bousquet was a great 20th century scholar. "one person went to the Prophet (S) and said: 'I have a wife who always welcomes me when I come home and escorts me to the door when I leave When she fds me sad and unhappy she then by consolg me says: 'If you are thkg sustenance then do not despair because Allah provides sustenance; and if you are thkg about the next life then may Allah crease your tellect and efforts Then the Prophet (S) stated: ' Allah surely has functionaries and agents this world and your wife is one those Such a woman would be rewarded half as much as a martyr'."8 Louis Bertrand (1866 – 1941) was a French novelist historian and essayist He was the third member elected to occupy seat 4 the Académie française 1925 "imam ' Ali (a.s) also stated: 'The benevolence this world and the next is two thgs: keepg secrets and friendship with the good people; and all the are two thgs: revealg secrets and keepg bad company'."75 Accept His Management Every stitution factory and organization needs a responsible manager any sociological unit and organization cooperation between the staff is important However runng the affairs such a unit needs a manager who can coordate the duties One the very important social units is the 'family' Runng the affairs this unit is very vital and difficult The followg sourced quotations are particularly useful as many apologists like to commit the logical fallacy appealg to authority by usg (very ten out--context or false) quotes attributed to various noteworthy non-Muslim dividuals an attempt to propagate. Dear Madam! Do your friends come to your house order to watch your luxury goods? If so advise them to go to the stores and museums stead comg to visit you Associatg with others is meant to crease one's friendship with them as well as havg a pleasant time It is not meant for showg f or fillg one's stomach Everyone is annoyed with 'luxurism' and rivalry this kd But they dare not dispose this mistaken tradition If you were prepared to enterta your guests a simple manner you would see that they would follow you This way you can associate with your friends simply and without gog to too much trouble Thus the solution to this problem is easy stead tryg to match your belonggs to those others’; you should concentrate on strengtheng the bonds friendship with them through kdness Joe A is a British pornography producer notable for his focus on the "dian" or "Asian" niche market The past cous was practised with digenous cultures Australia North America South America and Polynesia Various religions have ranged from prohibitg sixth couss or closer from marryg to freely allowg first-cous Cous is an important topic anthropology and alliance theory. The U.S state Mae allows first-cous if the couple agrees to have genetic counselg while North Carola allows it so long as the applicants for are not rare double first couss meang couss through both parental les. the other 25 states permittg at least some first-cous double couss are not distguished. "a woman complaed to the Council that her husband always ate his lunch and dner outside The husband then explaed that the reason he ate outside was because his wife had absolutely no constructiveness her and she was the worst all the ill-disposed women the world The wife suddenly got up and started beatg her husband front the judges'." 29 This foolish woman thought that by complag abusg and beatg she could brg him back home But she did not use the simple and telligent method which was to be more considerate and to observe appropriate conduct Sat Thomas Aquas (1225 – 1274) an immensely fluential philosopher and theologian What is the pot beg called handsome or well-mannered at the expense your wife's suspicion and her distrust towards you? Why should you trigger her suspicion by jokg with your secretary or a woman colleague? Why should you employ a woman to work for you? Do not joke with other women parties If you want to help a poor widow why should you not form your wife? You can even help the widow through your wife Do not thk that you are a slave or a person chas You should not be a slave but a wise man who upon an agreement with your wife is takg care her You should help her overcome this problem The Qur'an does not state that s between first couss are forbidden Sura An-Nisa (4:22–24) Allah mentioned the women who are forbidden for : to quote the Qu'ran " Lawful to you are all beyond those mentioned so that you may seek them with your wealth honest wedlock…" Sura Al-Ahzab (33:50), Order for the human beg to be able to cope with the burdens life it is necessary to have someone to listen to and sympathize with him Your husband is no exception He may feel alone and need fdg refuge and comfort amidst these pressures It is natural that the man looks towards his wife and family as a source comfort and relief Therefore anticipate his expectations and needs Be cordial and warm when he first returns home after workg and have refreshments or let him feel that you are at his disposal to care for his needs Try not to overwhelm him with criticizg him the mute you see him Let him rest and recover his strength before puttg up the demands the family's personal issues Do not feed the baby with hot or cold milk but at the same temperature as the mother's milk After every feedg you should boil the bottle and its nipple and extra car must be taken durg the hot seasons Be careful not to use leftover or sour milk It is better to measure the amount milk for every feedg order to make sure that your child is not gettg too much or too little usg powdered milk you should consult a pediatrician You must always use fresh powdered milk After the fourth month the baby's birth you can start to feed him with fruit juice From the age six months you can also start to feed him with solid foods and soups You can feed him biscuits or sweet bread Yogurt and cheese are also useful You can gradually feed him with slight amounts your. "a seventy-one year old man who had killed his wife explaed: 'Suddenly her manners towards me changed and she started to ignore me Once she called me "an tolerable man" I realized that she did not love me any more; I became suspicious her and killed her with two blows. Blaise Pascal (1623 – 1662) was a French mathematician physicist ventor writer and Catholic philosopher Mahomet established a religion by puttg his enemies to death; Jesus Christ by commandg his followers to lay down their lives Carey Cash Rev Carey Cash is a US Navy chapla currently assigned to Camp David the U.S presidential retreat He is ten referred to as "President Obama's pastor" Such women with these thoughts and conclusive pro gradually assume certaty regardg their husbands' unfaithfulness They thk about it every day and night They also tell others friends and foes about it who the name sympathy reforce the allegations and turn tell the concerned women about other unfaithful men Arguments and rows start to take shape The woman begs to ignore the affairs the house and the children and might even go to her parents She would monitor him and search his pockets She would read his letters and would expla any trivial matter as due to his unfaithfulness With this attitude she would make the family's life hard and turn the house to a burng hell which she would also suffer If her husband brought pro his nocence or swore that he had not been committg any thg wrong or cried she would not be satisfied Thirdly you may be nocent the subject her suspicion but the suspicions women are mostly not baseless either Perhaps through carelessness you have done somethg which has affected her mentally and made her suspicious you You should ponder over your previous acts carefully You might then fd the cause her suspicion this way you can solve the problem better For stance if you joke a lot with other women try not to do it. Everyone has a job and jobs are different For example a driver who is mostly on the road and is unable to come home every night; a policeman who may have to stay out some nights; a medical doctor who has little time to spend with his family; a lecturer or a scientist who reads a great deal at nights; a mechanic whose clothes are dirty and have smell oil; a factory worker who works at night Therefore there are rarely jobs which are entirely convenient and do not entail any discomfort the family There is not any other way earng an honest livg than workg It is necessary for the men to put up with the difficulties their jobs However there is another problem which is the complats the family Samuel Langhorne Clemens (1835 – 1910) well known by his pen name Mark Twa was an American author and humorist Twa is noted for his novels Adventures Huckleberry Fn which has been called "the Great American Novel" and The Adventures Tom Sawyer He is extensively quoted and was a friend to presidents artists dustrialists and European royalty To honor and respect your husband does not belittle you but it provides energy and clation to struggle to make a better life You should always greet him and with your greetg give him a feelg veneration Do not terrupt him when he is talkg Be courteous and polite when you are talkg to him and do not shout at him Let him enter first when both you are gog to. One the important duties women is carg for their children This is not an easy task but one which is very sensitive and vital It is the most sacred and most valuable responsibility which has been bestowed upon women by the order creation There are a few pots which are briefly mentioned here with regard to this matter: (1) Fruit Although a man and a woman get married for a few reasons such as sexual motive love etc havg a child is not one the ma reasons for But it is not long before the true motive natural creation becomes apparent itself and the love for havg a child grows their hearts The existence a child is the fruit the marital tree and a natural desire men and women A without a child is like a fruitless tree A child would strengthen the bonds love between a couple It serves as a drive to the man's workg life and encourages the parents to care for their family Hdu rules exogamy are ten taken extremely seriously and local village councils dia admister laws agast -gotra endogamy  Social norms agast such practices are quite strong as well. the 18th and 19th Centuries Hdu Kurmis Chunar and Jaunpur are known to have been fluenced by their Muslim neighbors and taken up extensively the custom cous  'the Prophet Allah (S) stated: 'The best your women is one who upon seeg her husband's anger tells him: 'I submit to your will Sleep will not pass over my eyes unless you become content with me'." 91 'The Prophet Allah (S) stated: 'Forgiveness and tolerance would crease the honour and respect their owners Be forgivg so that Allah will cherish you'."92 Men's Hobbies Some men like to have certa hobbies at home They are terested say collectg stamps or books gardeng or photography their spare time. Dear Madam! You can make the most out your spare mutes or hours You can do scientific tasks You can buy the red books and with the help your husband crease your knowledge Any course is possible; physics chemistry Qur'an philosophy history geography literature psychology etc You would enjoy it and perhaps you could one day contribute to your society through your knowledge You can write articles or even books after which your name will rema You can earn money too Do not thk that this is too ambitious for a housewife Do not image that all the great women history have been sittg idle They too were housewives but the ones who did not waste their. And so a Hardabaean (Sasanian) dynasty ruled for three hun- dred and sixty years and then the Son Slaughter the Arab set up as kg went forth and took a people to himself and performed circumcision (Even then) after this had happened and these events had taken place sixty banners (still) remaed and pertaed to me Baghdad Then he took the sword and put to the sword from the city Damascus unto Bit Dubar which is called Bd He governed it all and ruled over the lord the hill-country the Persians who are called Hardbaeans and took away sovereignty. Roderick "Rory" Keith Ogilvy Bremner FKC (born April 6 1961) is a Scottish impressionist playwright and award-wng comedian noted for his work political satire and impressions proment British politicians John Adams (1735 – 1826) was an American Foundg Father and the second President the United States (1797–1801) The followg is taken from the preface the Qur'an owned. It is not wrong if a woman is watchful her husband but only if it does not exceed to a state suspicion and mistrust Suspicion is a destructive and curable illness Unfortunately some women are affected by this disease A woman suspicion images that her husband is lawfully or unlawfully disloyal to her She images that he is married to another woman or that he is gog to marry her She suspects him havg an affair with his secretary or another woman She loses trust him because he comes home or he was seen talkg to a woman If he helps a widow and her children the wife may thk that he has an terest her other than a charitable one If any woman gives her husband a compliment sayg that he is handsome or well-mannered she concludes that he is terested that woman Upon fdg a strand hair his car she thks there is another woman. If you feel that your husband is gog astray or that he is associated with corrupt and unworthy people then you should stop him immediately A woman this situation has a great responsibility The slightest mishandlg the situation through carelessness may shatter their family life This is a situation where the wisdom and cleverness some women can become useful and apparent One should remember that rows or arguments are not the solution and they may result the exact opposite A woman who experiences this event has two tasks to achieve: It is not with the scope this book to present you with a detailed discussion on carg for one's child Fortunately there are many books which have been written on this subject by learned writers and scholars Women can buy these books and with the help their own experience they can educate their children and even become specialists the field child-rearg She can then become helpful to other mothers for their duties regardg their children Here one pot should be mentioned Many people make mistake about the two phrases 'education' and 'trag' or thk them as havg the same meang But one should know that teachg a child different subjects such as appropriate stories poems Qur'an traditions the Prophet (S) and the Imams (a.s) does not educate them Such subjects are useful but a child should not only learn about honest persons but he should be honest himself When your husband comes home try to have a smile and a warm greetg for him Attend to his physical needs fatigue hunger and thirst Then ask him about his problems If he is not willg to talk be a good listener and sympathize with him Try to express your genue concern and then help him realize that the problems are not as impossible and huge as he had thought Give him encouragements support to help him cope with the issues You can say somethg like this: These problems are beg faced by many people With a strong will-power and patience it is possible to overcome the difficulties as long as one does not let the problems get the better you These problems as a matter fact are tests as well as builders the true character a person Do not despair You can solve them through determation and perseverance "dr A H Taba the former Head the Eastern Mediterranean Region the World Health Organization said: 'One the important factors which makes a child susceptible to many illnesses is by deprivg him or her mother's milk which is the only life surance any person.'' 143 Thus mothers who feed their babies with their own milk must remember that all the necessary nutrition for their babies are contaed with that milk But a nutritive milk is only possible if the mother is fed well that is the quality her milk is red to the quality and quantity her own food The better her food the better her milk would be Mothers who feed their babies with their own milk can through carelessness about their food damage their own health as well as their babies "all these children were taken to hospital for treatment." 114 Fally you are remded that disciple is only useful up to a certa extent that it should not deprive you from comfort You should not be obsessed with tidess because obsession itself can cause problems: One cannot distguish my wife from my servant the house I swear by Allah that I sometimes thk: I wish she would wear one these dresses made for parties at home I wish she would throwaway those torn and worn out clothes I have told her a few times: 'darlg! at least wear those nice dresses at home on holidays.' She told me sourly: 'I don't need to be particular when I am at home; but if one day I look untidy the presence my colleagues then it would be embarrassg for me'." The reader might believe that while house keepg and cookg a woman cannot dress up or look beautiful This may be true but a housewife can have different clothes for dog the housework; and she can change her workg clothes to proper ones while she is the presence her husband or for when he returns home You can always comb your hair and keep yourself clean after the housework Many the immediate successors Muhammad also took a cous as one their wives Umar married his cous Atikah bt Zayd ibn Amr ibn Nifayl, while Ali married Fatimah, the daughter his paternal first cous Muhammad and hence his first cous once removed. "a woman said the court: 'Mr used to talk behd my husband- order to cause a clash between me and my husband He used to tell me that my husband was not good enough for me and that he did not understand me or have any emotions He always wanted me to get a divorce and marry him As a result his deludg suggestions I was misled and one day we both together killed my husband'." 64 Dante Alighieri (1265 – 1321) also known as "the Supreme Poet" was an Italian poet His Dive Comedy is ten considered the greatest literary work ever composed the Italian language and a masterpiece world literature Below is Dante's description Muhammad and. Another very important responsibility a housewife is preparg food for her family A good housewife is also a good cook who can prepare delicious food with little money while a bad housewife cooks bad food with expensive gredients Delicious food is a means attractg her husband towards her A man whose wife cooks well does not particularly enjoy eatg out "The Prophet Allah (S) stated: 'The best your women is one who perfumes herself prepares food skillfully and would not overdulge spendg Such a woman is one the workforce Allah and a person who works for Allah would never have to face either regret or defeat'." 116 It is not possible for me to write down recipes but there are many good books on the subject which can be obtaed and used to cook delicious foods But just a few pots to remember: Jefferson r went to war with the Barbary states Thomas Pae Thomas Pae (1737-1809) was an English-American political activist philosopher political theorist and revolutionary He was one the foundg fathers the United States His ideas pertaed to transnational human rights Such hobbies are classified as the best and healthiest pastime activities They are very useful that they attract men towards their homes as well as causg their relaxation One can become depressed and frustrated from beg idle It is a fact that one the ways treatg people with mental disorders is to keep them busy with certa jobs Those us who work more than others are generally less affected by mental disorders and are less attracted towards dangerous occupation Therefore woman should respect the healthy hobbies their husbands and should not regard their pastime activities as foolish cheap and useless Women must encourage their men these activities and cooperate with them if necessary Everyone except those that Allah has declared as "fallible" makes mistakes When two people who love together and cooperate with each other make mistakes they must be forgivg if they do not forgive each other then their will come to an end Two busess partners two neighbours two colleagues two friends and specifically a husband and a wife need to be able to forgive each other If the members a family are unforgivg and pursue each other's mistakes then either the family will separate or they will experience an unbearable life A wise person would make the most out his precious hours life What valuable achievements one can have! Idleness is very harmful and is a cause many mental disorders and anxieties An idle person keeps thkg and fds ways feelg sad He would experience many types worries after which his md would become confused A happy person is one who is busy dog somethg An unlucky person is one who has excess idle time enough to thk the ups and downs his life Beg busy is enjoyable and idleness is a source depression Is it not a pity that one should waste his precious life or spend some its moments without gettg anythg return? Women usually like to know about their husbands' secrets their earngs their decisions about the future and their work They expect men not to hide anythg from them On the contrary men are not willg to tell their wives everythg As a result some husbands and wives constantly argue over this matter Some women say that their husbands do not trust them; do not let them read their letters; do not tell them the amount their earngs; are not straight with them; do not answer their questions properly; and sometimes lie cidentally men do not md tellg their secrets to their wives But they believe that their wives do not keep secrets; that they re to others everythg they know and might even cause trouble for their husbands If one tends to fd out the secrets others it suffices for one to call on their wives Some wives by knowg their husbands' secrets blackmail them and thus misuse their husbands'. "imam as-Sadiq (a.s) stated: 'Allah Almighty will grant a well-disposed person a reward equivalent to the blessgs Jihad He will endow many blessgs onto him day and night'."31 "Imam as-Sadiq (a.s.) stated: 'Any woman who bothers her husband and distresses him is distant from the blessgs Allah and any woman who respects her husband is obedient and does not cause him sorrow is blessed and prosperous'."32 The women who have not perceived the true purpose and meang and stead they regard it terms bondage where the husband is acquired to fulfill their childish desires and material needs They want a husband who will serve them like a slave and will not object to their way spendg These women sometimes even go further They make their husbands spend more than their means which may entail bankruptcy murder and other disastrous consequences Such women are a disgrace to other women If her high expectations lead to divorce the woman will be deprived the love her children and will have to live a life loneless For these women re will not happen easily Even if it does happen it is not certa that the will work out sce most human begs do not like to be kept unreasonable bondage and the new husband may not be able to meet their demands any better than the previous one The wife occasionally goes to the guests but cannot stay and sit with them She while apologizg to them once aga returns to her kitchen It is not possible for her to prepare a really delicious meal under these conditions Once the meal is ready she has to look for the dishes make a drk get the glasses fill the salt and pepper shakers etc The guests after eatg their meal fally say 'good-bye' to their hosts and leave Conclusion: The meal was either too salty or salt less burnt or less- cooked Also some the items may have been forgotten by the hostess and therefore not placed before her guests It is now midnight and the wife is exhausted She has not had a moment rest sce noon Also she was unable to attend to the guests properly The husband has gone through a great deal worry He has spent a lot money for the party but the eveng was not enjoyable and he may even blame. "a woman complag to the court said: 'One my friends told me that my husband goes to a stranger woman's house I followed him one day and realized that it was true Now I am askg the court to punish him' The husband while acknowledgg what his wife was sayg told the court: 'One day I went to a pharmacy to buy some medice I saw a woman the pharmacy who was buyg powdered milk She did not have enough money to pay for the milk so I fered to help r I found out that she was a widow who was poor So I decided to contue my help'." The judges after vestigatg the matter realized the truth his claims and reconciled the couple'."57 Such events happen many families The family atmosphere changes to an environment pessimism suspicion and enmity The children would suffer and the mental effects. Akwande Oluwole "Wole" Soyka (born J) is a Nigerian writer poet and playwright 1986 he became the first African to be awarded the Nobel Prize Literature 1994 he was designated UNESCO Goodwill Ambassador for the promotion African culture human rights freedom expression media and communication England is a cesspit England is the breedg ground fundamentalist Muslims Its social logic is to allow all religions to preach openly But this is illogic because none the other religions preach apocalyptic violence And yet England allows it Remember that country was the breedg ground for communism too Karl Marx did all his work libraries there We should assemble all those who are pure and cannot abide other faiths put them all rockets and fire them to space A virus has attacked the world sense and sensibility and it has spread to Nigeria Only on Fridays through the mediation friends and relatives we used to be on good terms Gradually my husband became disappoted with me and thought divorcg me and remarryg Sce I was young I was not prepared to change and did not object to a divorce We got divorced and I rented a flat Soon I realized the dangers Most the people whom I met were out to deceive me I decided to reconcile with my former husband and called at his house There I met a lady who troduced herself as his wife I cried all the way back to my house I regretted my divorce but it. The husband this woman said: "Please tell me what I can do I wish these magazes would consider the readers like my wife and would not tell so many lies Believe me these horoscopes have turned the lives me and my children to rus If one these horoscopes says that this week a large lump sum money is comg my way then she comes to me and asks me what I have done with that money? Or if it says that I would be receivg a letter then Allah save me! I thk it is probably better for both us to separate because she does not confront reason'."53 "a thirty-ne year old man ran away from his wife and mother--law and left a letter sayg: 'Because my wife's attitude and because she was not prepared to go to Abadan with me I decided to leave this world My wife and her mother are responsible for my death' Thus a man who was fed up with his mother--law's terference committed suicide'." 66 "A man who was fed up with his mother--law's terference threw her out a taxi'." 67 Undoubtedly daughters who obey mothers this kd and submit to their wills would flict an irreversible blow on themselves Is sometimes itially founded on the basis lust love makg and stantaneous sexual terests Such a foundation is false and not lastg and is always prone to destruction The factor with which this foundation becomes strong is hayg a child Lust and sexual drive soon subside The only memory from days and nights sexual desire would be the children whose existence would be heart warmg to the parents "Imam Sajjad (a.s) stated: 'One's happess is hayg pious children from whom one can seek help'.'' 137 "The Prophet Allah (S) stated: 'A pious child is a sweet-smellg plant from among the plants Paradise'.'' 138 Those who have declared jihad agast the West and Western values such as freedom speech are dog all their power to mobilize agast us the large Muslim communities livg our midst Unbelievably Washgton is urgg Europe to admit Turkey to the EU Were that to happen the Muslim population Europe would skyrocket to 100 million — an act my view consummate folly Already Judeo-Christian Europe is under siege from a tidal wave ic immigration The admission Turkey would hasten its demise trigugly the dangers extremist were foreseen by Wston Churchill all 85 years ago as I discovered to my amazement while compilg my most recent book NEVER GIVE ! The Best Wston Churchill’s Speeches Muhammad ibn Zakariyā Rāzī (865 – 925 AD) was a Persian physician alchemist chemist philosopher and scholar Edward William Lane (1801 — 1876) was a British Orientalist translator and lexicographer Lane's Arabic-English Lexicon remas the world's most revered and scholarly dictionary the Arabic language The tax that is taken from the free non-Muslim subjects a Muslim government whereby they ratify the compact that assures them protection as though it were compensation for not beg sla Emeka Ojukwu Emeka Ojukwu (1933 - 2011) was the only president the short lived Republic Biafra Antony Garrard Newton Flew (1923 – 2010) was a British philosopher He was also known for the development the no true Scotsman fallacy Rabdranath Tagore (1861 – 1941) was a Bengali polymath who reshaped his region's literature and music The composer both the national anthem dia as well as the national anthem Bangladesh he became the first non-European to w the Nobel Prize Literature Therefore parents general and mothers particular are responsible towards their societies They can serve their society by brgg up pious children On the other hand carelessness about their responsibility will be questioned on the Day Judgment "Imam Sajjad (a.s) stated: 'The right your child is that you should know he is from you Be it good or bad he is red to you You are responsible for his upbrgg education and showg him the path to Allah and helpg him to be obedient You should treat him such a way that if you behave well towards him you will be sure beg rewarded and if you behave badly towards him you will be sure receivg punishment'.'' 141 course not all mothers are aware the necessary skills trag a child and that is why they should set about learng them While some women work at home there are others who prefer an outside job This preference may be either for economical or other reasons this case the best jobs are cultural occupations or nursg Nurseries primary and high schools are suitable places for women to tra and teach female students Hospitals are also suitable places where women can serve as nurses and doctors Such jobs are agreeable to the female nature; and also there would rarely if at all be the need for them to mix with or come across the men who are not mahram (near relatives with whom is prohibited) The followg are recommendations to those ladies who tend to or who are workg outside their homes Consult your husband before takg up a job It is your husband's right to grant or refuse you permission to work Startg to work without your husband's permission will be detrimental to the serenity and lovg atmosphere your family John Calv (1509 – 1564) was an fluential French theologian and pastor durg the Protestant Reformation and a prcipal figure the development Calvism Origally traed as a humanist lawyer he broke from the Roman Catholic Church around 1530 "a man shot himself his wife and step-mother to death The couple were believed to have had many rows and arguments right from the start their On the night the cident the husband had returned home from work when the couple started yet another argument The husband hit his wife and she decided to go to the police Suddenly the man took his gun killed his wife his step-mother and then ended his own life with a bullet'." 88 Would it not have been better for the woman to have remaed silent at the husband's anger? Would three lives have been ended if the woman had been patient and had not reacted? Which one would you prefer? A few moments silence or all the grave consequences gettg back at your husband? William James Durant (1885 – 1981) was a prolific American writer historian and philosopher The Story Philosophy written 1926 has been described as a groundbreakg work that helped to popularize philosophy Now Mahomet if thou have any power Come down thyself and work a miracle: Thou art not worthy to be worshipped That suffer’st flames fire to burn the writ Where the sum thy religion rests: Why send’st thou not a furious whirlwd down To blow thy Alcoran up to thy throne Where men report thou sitt’st by God himself? Or vengeance on the head Tamburlae That shakes his sword agast thy majesty And spurns the abstracts thy foolish laws?— Well soldiers Mahomet remas hell; He cannot hear the voice Tamburlae: Seek out another godhead to adore; The God that sits heaven if. The Middle East has uniquely high rates cous among the world's regions Certa Middle Eastern countries cludg Saudi Arabia have rates to first or second couss that may exceed 70%. Iraq was estimated one study to have a rate 33%, and figures for Afghanistan have been estimated. David Hume (1711 – 1776) was a Scottish philosopher and historian regarded as one the most important figures the history Western philosophy and the Scottish Enlightenment Michael Cook (born 1940) is the Cleveland E Dodge Pressor Near Eastern Studies at Prceton University He is widely considered "among the most outstandg scholars on the history " and is the author several classic works on Muhammad and early ic theology Wston Spencer-Churchill (Octo – March 2 2010) generally known as Wston Churchill was a British politician and a grandson former Prime Mister Sir Wston Churchill For several centuries slavery mataed itself Christian Spa as the ic lands Very certaly also it was to the Arabs that the Spaniards owed the transigence their fanaticism the pretension to be if not the chosen God at least the most Catholic nation Christendom Philip II like Abd er Rahman or El Mansour was Defender. These women should not upset their husbands this way They are so feeble-mded that they thk their birth places are the best locations to live They thk that they cannot enjoy life anywhere else Mankd is not satisfied even with its own planet so it has stepped onto other planets But one looks and fds a woman who is so improvident that she is not prepared to live a few miles away from her hometown She thks to herself: "Why should I leave all my friends and relatives to get to a strange place?’It is as if this lady is not self-confident enough to be able to fd new friends another place away from. Frank Miller (born Janu) is an American comic book artist writer and film director He is ten regarded as one the greatest comic artists. Talks this kd can be heard among a fairly large percentage the female population any society Women who are used to this manner speakg as a matter fact do not thk the grave consequences which might follow They do not thk that their gossipg or pickg up faults could lead to divorce or even murder Such women are truly demons a human form They are the enemies families They create strife among the families and turn their houses to dark and horrible dungeons What should one do? This is a component our societies Even though has firmly prohibited us from such deeds we are not prepared to give. Clton Richard Dawks (born Ma) is a British ethologist evolutionary biologist and popular science author He was formerly Pressor for Public Understandg Science at Oxford and was a fellow New College Oxford deserves criticism on account the logical consequences its dogma namely that the murder fellow human begs is to be rewarded with sensual pleasure a hedonistic “Paradise”—a concept born the fantasies an Arab rebel some fourteen centuries ago The religion Mohammed is a dangerous system when the teachgs and example the “prophet” are believed and followed I'm reasonably optimistic America and Europe I'm pessimistic about the ic world I regard as one the great the world and I fear that we have a very difficult struggle there [Why is it more problematic than Christianity for stance?] Sir Ahmed Salman Rushdie (born J) is a British-dian novelist and essayist He achieved notability with his second novel Midnight's Children (1981) which won the Booker. Second: Another difficulty is about the hostg one's guests A housewife goes through the trouble makg food for a few guests over a period a few hours Sometimes a woman cannot prepare a delicious meal after which the husband may become upset Her husband may also show his displeasure towards her cookg Therefore some parties are accompanied with the anxiety the host couple as a result which people tend to avoid havg a party course it is true that holdg a party is not easy but the ma difficulty arises when the housewife does not have sufficient knowledge about how to look after her guests Hostg one's guests becomes easy if one is prepared to learn the necessary skills Here two case studies are presented You may follow whichever you prefer while entertag your guests: "the Prophet Allah (S) stated: 'Do not leave the rubbish behd the front door the house because Satan takes its abode there'," 107 "The Prophet Allah (S) also stated: 'If it had not been somethg convenient for my followers I would have ordered them to brush their teeth with every wudu (ablution) for prayer (i.e five times a day)'," 108 "Imam as-Sadiq (a.s) stated: 'Cuttg one's nails on Fridays would prevent one from beg affected by leprosy sanity alopecia and bldness'," 109 "It has been red that: 'Satan takes his sleep underneath the (long) nails'." 110 Women have great power and fluence over men She is able to do whatever she wills if she puts her md to it If a woman decides to save her husband from the filth corruption she can do it There is an eighty per cent chance success provided she acts wisely Anyway she must not use violence or a harsh attitude unless she sees that there is not any result from beg kd and gentle to him Even then she must quarrel leave home or use any other way as kd a way as possible and not revengefully Yes lookg after one's husband is the duty every wife It is a difficult duty and that is why the Prophet (S) stated: "The Jihad a woman is to take care her husband well."52 Jacques Ellul (1912 – 1994) was a French philosopher law pressor sociologist lay theologian and Christian anarchist Edward Gibbon (1737 – 1794) was an English historian and Member Parliament His most important work The History the Decle and Fall the Roman Empire is known for the quality and irony its prose its use primary sources The mother whose words are regarded as sympathetic causes family rows and arguments between the daughter and her husband The daughter is placed a situation to pick up rows with her husband The parents would also take sides with her and fally order to w the fight they show willgness towards their daughter gettg a divorce "A thirty-year old woman attacked her fifty-year old mother for she had caused her divorce This woman said: 'My mother talked behd my husband so much that it caused many arguments between me and him Fally I got divorced but soon regretted it But it was too because six hours after our divorce my former husband was engaged to my cous I was so frustrated that I decided to beat up my mother'." 65 The husband has been able to associate with the guests He has had a good time with his friends and is happy with his wife for not lettg him down They become encouraged to vite their friends over and over aga Fally the woman who through patience and know- how has been able to enterta the guests normally and without any problem is satisfied with herself She feels happy with her husband and has proved herself to be a good hostess Now you can choose to follow either the two examples The Trustee the House Men are usually the supporters the family They work hard and spend their earngs on their wives and children They regard this as their duty and do not ever show their displeasure their hardship A wise lady would rema silent towards her husband's rantg and sults The man would then calm down and would regret his sults If he sees that there is not any reaction to his anger he would even apologize With this approach the family gets back to a normal situation after only an hour or two However if the woman the house did not understand her husband's sensitive position then she would shout swear curse and react sharply With this approach the husband and wife might end up fightg and eventually resort to a divorce Many families are broken up as the result such little cidents There are even cases where men become so angry that they erupt like a volcano and commit murder Cous has been allowed throughout the Middle East for all recorded history. Anthropologists have debated the significance the practice; some view it as the defg feature the Middle Eastern kship system while others note that overall rates cous have varied sharply between different Middle Eastern communities. Very little numerical evidence exists rates cous. Dear Madam! Wng the heart a man especially for a long time is not easy Do not thk: "He loves me I don't need to look beautiful for him or try to w his heart or entice him." You must always mata his love towards yourself Be sure that your husband would enjoy havg a tidy beautiful and clean wife even though he may not express it If you do not satisfy his ner desires and do not dress attractively at home he may see beautiful and attractive women out the house He may then become disheartened you and might deviate from the right path When he sees attractive women he compares you with them If you are an untidy careless and disheveled woman he would thk that other women are angels who have descended from the heavens So try to look attractive at home and be sure that he will not lose terest you Read the followg letter written by a husband: A 2009 study found that many Arab countries display some the highest rates consangueous s the world and that first cous s which may reach 25–30% all s. Qatar Yemen and UAE consanguity rates are creasg the current generation Research among Arabs and worldwide has dicated that consanguity could have an effect on some reproductive health parameters such as postnatal mortality and rates congenital malformations. Dear madam! Now that you have realized the evil tentions behd gossip and if you are terested your husband and children then do not be fluenced by the tongues the human-shaped d Do not give to their false friendship Be sure they are not your friends but your foes who want to see you breakg away from your family Do not be simple and do not believe them Try to fd their evil tentions through sagacity Stop them immediately when they set out to criticize your husband Do not be shy to tell them: "If you want us to rema friends then stop talkg about my husband You do not have any right t to criticize him I love him and there is nothg wrong. Muhammad Sven Kalisch is a Pressor at Münster University one Germany's oldest and most respected universities 2004 he went on to become Germany's first ever pressor ic theology Repeated consangueous s with a group are more problematic After repeated generations cous the actual genetic relationship between two people is closer than the most immediate relationship would suggest Pakistan where there has been cous for generations and the current rate may exceed 50% one study estimated fant mortality at 12.7 percent for married double first couss 7.9 percent for first couss 9.2 percent for first couss once removed/double second couss 6.9 percent for second couss and 5.1 percent among nonconsangueous progeny Among double first cous progeny 41.2 percent prereproductive deaths were associated with the expression detrimental recessive genes with equivalent values 26.0 14.9 and 8.1 percent for first couss first couss once removed/double second couss and second couss respectively. David B Cook is a religious scholar and author from Rice University Houston with a focus on ic history and Muslim apocalyptic literature Alexis-Charles-Henri Clérel de Tocqueville (1805 – 1859) was a French political thker and historian best known for his Democracy America and The Old Regime and the Revolution Every place has its own merits You can relax by sightseeg and visitg ancient buildgs You must keep the family together and encourage your husband his work After a while you get used to your new home and you might even like it more than your previous one You might fd that your new friends are better than your old ones If the new place lacks the luxury your previous town then get used to the new life and fd its merits If you are no longer enjoyg such privileges as electricity then your environment may have a better climate and you may be able to get fresher and better quality food If there are not any proper roads then you will not be halg toxic exhaust fumes and you will be away from all the noise people. Maharishi Dayanand Saraswati (1824-1883) was an dian Sage who is considered to be the most important Hdu religious leader. A house although a little place is a precious blessg It is a shelter for the man who takes refuge it after the work It is a place for seekg comfort even after beg on a holiday; one fds rest one's home No where is like home and nowhere can one fd peace as one would one's home It is a place friendship love scerity comfort rest and a place where men and women good virtue are educated and traed It is a workshop to tra mankd and a place to educate and brg up children It is a little society from which greater societies are formed Salomon Reach (1858 – 1932) was a French archaeologist who made valuable archaeological discoveries at Myra near Smyrna 1880-82 at Cyme 1881 at Thasos Imbros and Lesbos (1882) at Carthage and Menx (1883-84) at Odessa (1893) and elsewhere He received honours from the chief learned societies Europe You must be as kd to her as possible You might resent your wife deeply because her attitude but there is not any other way You must treat her a manner so that she becomes certa your nocence Secondly you should try to create an understandg between yourselves Do not hide any thg from her Let her read your letters even before you do Leave the keys to your private desk drawers or safe with her reach Let her look to your bags and pockets Allow her to monitor you You should not express displeasure with any the above- mentioned pots but regard them as normal procedures a healthy and friendly family life But men also expect their wives to economize and not to spend their money extravagantly The women are expected to classify the necessities and spend on the priorities such as food clothes medice rent electricity telephone gas and water bills Placg such items as luxury goods on the list one's priorities is regarded as squanderg and wasteful Men do not like their wives to misuse their money buyg unnecessary goods or lavishly spendg If a man fds his wife trustworthy carg for his money if he is sure that his wife does not spend lavishly and if he is certa that his hard earned money is not wasted away he would then work harder and would not waste. Mrs Dorothy Carnegie was a housewife who wrote a good book She used to do the housework and also helped her husband (Dale Carnegie) writg his famous book "How to Make Friends and fluence People" She writes her book concerng prciples lookg after the husband: "I have written this book durg my child's two-hour sleep I did a lot my readg durg the time my hair were gettg dried the hairdressg saloon." There are many women who have been writg great books or have had many achievements scientific fields If you are an enthusiastic person you could be one them If your husband is a researcher then help him his field Is it not a pity for an educated woman to give up all her knowledge? "Imam Ali (a.s) stated: 'There is not any better treasure other than knowledge'." 134 The couple not only have not enjoyed the party but may also have an argument over it and may even decide not to hold any more parties The guests did not enjoy the party either because they felt that they had caused a lot trouble for their hosts and they probably wished that they had not come at all Undoubtedly the readers would not enjoy such a situation and would not be prepared or willg to have this kd experience Do you know what the source this problem is? Well the only real cause is the lack experience and know-how the housewife about how to enterta her guests Otherwise holdg a party is not such a difficult task Now the second option: After the article Mr Redeker received numerous death threads and had to go to hidg under police protection The history the nations a secretion the Arab bra has never been an element civilization but on the contrary has acted as an extguisher upon its flickerg light dividuals under Arab rule have only been able to contribute to the advance civilization so far as they did not conform to the Musulman dogma but they relapsed to Arab barbarism as soon as they were obliged to make a complete submission to these dogmas Whenever he buys home appliances or somethg like clothes and shoes for you and the children be happy and thank him Show your gratitude for the trivial thgs he does such as buyg groceries takg the family on trips and gives you your allowance By showg your appreciation you will make your husband feel good and rewarded for the trouble he has taken Be careful that you do not take his duties for granted and become different towards his contributions to the family He may become disheartened about the welfare the family He may prefer to spend his money elsewhere or on himself If your mother as a result your suggestion stops terferg then you will not be disturbed However if she is not prepared to take any notice you r desires it would be better for you to stop seeg her this way you will be saved and you can live comfortably While as a result breakg away from you r parents you may lose some your respect among you r family you will have earned many times over more respect from your husband "The Prophet Allah (S) stated: 'The best your women is one who gives birth to many children is lovg and chaste who does not submit to the will her relatives but is obedient towards her husband adorns herself only for her husband and protects herself from strangers listens to her husband and obeys him accedes to his wishes privacy and does not lose her modesty. Most stances divorce are due to the compatible nature man and wife The statistics on divorce conclusively dicate that the compatible attitude moral values and disposition was non-existent the couples The ma source family rows and discord is due to the compatible character the couple's ethical prciples and values The followg set data is terest: " the year 1968 12,760 cases out a total 16,039 cases marital complats brought to court were based on compatible moral foundations 1969 11,246 cases out a total 16,058 cases were based on the same reason It is therefore evident that more than seventy per cent family rows were due to this factor'."28 Edward Augustus Freeman (1823 – 1892) was an English historian architectural artist liberal politician durg the -19th-century heyday William Gladstone and a one-time candidate for Parliament It is true that this way life is unusual and seems difficult but if the women question ponder over the importance their husbands' jobs they can decide to overcome the problem through good planng devotion and wisdom The exceptionality some women becomes apparent these situations Otherwise runng an ordary family life is not an extraordary task Dear lady! Writg a book a good scientific article or a useful essay writg an excellent poem creatg a precious patg or solvg scientific problems are not easy tasks But with your devotion and co-operation it becomes possible Are you not prepared to sacrifice your desires and with a slight alteration your life help your husband his job? Through your help he would become prestigious and you would share his social status There would not be any problems if the son--law submits to the mother--law's desires: However if he shows resistance then rows beg to take shape the latter case the ignorant mother may become so stubborn that it may lead to the destruction her daughter's family life The ignorant mother stead encouragg her daughter to devote herself to her husband makes her oppose her husband The mother may tell her daughter: "You have rued your life What an awful husband! What good men were prepared to marry you! What a good life your cous has! How lucky your sister is! What have they got that you haven't? Why should you live like this? My poor daughter!" Bernard Lewis FBA (born ) is a British-American scholar Oriental studies and political commentator He is the Cleveland E Dodge Pressor Emeritus Near Eastern Studies at Prceton University He specializes the history and the teraction between and the West and is especially famous academic circles for his works on the history the Ottoman Empire Second: Whenever you suspect anythg you should discuss it with your husband such a manner as to fd the truth the matter out and not a way protest Be frank with him and ask him to expla the subject your suspicion order to clear your md and set it at peace Then listen to him carefully Thk about his explanation If you are satisfied with it then the matter is over But if you are still suspicious then vestigate the matter yourself until the truth is revealed If while vestigatg you come across a pot that your husband had lied about then do not regard it as a pro his guilt This is because despite his nocence he might have deliberately not been tellg the whole truth lest you become more suspicious Aga it is better to go to him and ask why he did not tell the whole truth course it is not good for one to lie but if your husband made this mistake then you should not turn act foolishly Her husband's house a woman should give priority to her husband's needs Even when there are conflictg desires her husband and her parents she should obey her husband even at the expense the parents' dissatisfaction Disobedience to one's husband may harm one's marital relationship and vice-versa Moreover many mothers do not enjoy a proper education and wisdom Some mothers have not yet realized that they should leave their daughters to reach an understandg with their husbands their own The married couple must be left to plan their own affairs and if they encounter any difficulty they should overcome it through their own itiative Christopher Eric Hitchens (1949 – 2011) was an English-American author and journalist His books essays and journalistic career have spanned more than four decades makg him a public tellectual and a staple talk shows and lecture circuits He has been a columnist and literary critic at The Atlantic Vanity Fair S World Affairs The Nation Free quiry and a variety other media outlets "imam Ali (a.s) stated: 'Keep your house clean spider's webs because a spider's web is a cause poverty'."99 "The Prophet Allah (S) stated: 'Do not leave the rubbish side the house at night because Shaytan (Satan) i.e pollution and uncleanless takes its abode there'." 100 "The Prophet Allah (S) also stated: 'One's clothes must always be clean'." 101 " addition the Prophet Allah (S) stated: 'Do not leave an oily cloth the house because Satan takes its. Similarly Vietnam Clause 3 Article 10 the 2000 Vietnamese Law on and Family forbids s on people red by blood up to the third degree kship. "imam Ali (a.s) was thkg the same when he spoke Hadrat Zahra (a.s) He stated that she was the best help for worshippg the Almighty Allah History tells us that the Prophet (S) one day after the weddg Imam Ali (a.s) and Hadrat Zahra (a.s) went to congratu them their house and know about their welfare He asked Imam Ali (a.s): 'How do you fd your spouse?' The Imam replied: 'I found Zahra as the best help worshippg the Almighty Allah.' The Prophet (S) then asked the same Zahra (a.s) and she replied: 'He is the best husband'."9 Is it not pitiful that a sacred marital covenant should be broken because a woman is not prepared to forgive some mistakes her husband? Copg with Your Husband's Relatives One the problems family life is the one cause between the wife and her husband's relatives Some women do not have a good relationship with their husband's mother sisters or brothers On the one hand the wife may try to domate her husband so that he would not be able to pay any attention even to his mother or any other relatives and she may try to sow discord between them Sibel Kekilli (born 16 June 1980) is a German actress Turkish background For her performances she was awarded twice with the most prestigious German movie award the Lola and she also received the Best Actress award at Turkey's most important national film festival "imam as-Sadiq (a.s.) stated: 'The Almighty Allah hates too much sleep and too much rest'." 128 "Imam as-Sadiq (a.s.) also stated: 'Too much sleep wastes and rus both one's worldly life and the religion (the life the world Hereafter)'."129 "Hadrat Zahra (a.s) also used to work at home."130 Anyone need or not should have a job He should not waste his life by not dog anythg but he should work and fer his share buildg a better world What has been dealt with so far this chapter has been only the worldly and animalistic side which the animals also share: the Benefits companionship and reproduction As such the true purpose for the human race is a different kd Mankd is not meant to have entered this world solely order to eat drk sleep seek pleasure or act lustfully and then to die and be destroyed Penn Fraser Jillette (born March 5 1955) is an American illusionist comedian musician and best-sellg author known for his work with fellow magician Teller the team Penn & Teller Everyone is thirsty for friendship and kdness; They all like to be loved by others The heart a human beg thrives on it A person who is not loved by anyone regards himself as alone and deserted Dear lady! Your husband is not any different He is also need love and affection Before his the love and affection his parents fulfilled this need but now he expects you to fulfill it The man looks towards his spouse to fd friendship and love which is a requirement all human begs He struggles hard to earn a livg and to comfort you He shares with you all the hardships life and as your true partner cares for your happess even more than your parents Therefore express your appreciation to him and love him he will love you Love is a two-way relationship which unites the hearts If a couple contues to live this situation then they would both suffer and if they show stubbornness towards each other they would surely lead to a divorce the case a divorce takg place both man and wife would be losers because on the one hand the man would not be able to fd another wife who is any better than the previous one On the other hand the children would suffer and would not be able to enjoy a healthy life The children might even confront new problems due to a step-father or step-mother The man may thk that by divorcg his wife he can marry a 'perfect' woman with whom he can live peace But this is nothg more than a dream and the realization it is very remote By divorcg his wife he may encounter new problems with the. If a friend or relative presented you with a pair stockgs or a bunch flowers you would thank them repeatedly So it is only natural and fair to show appreciation to your husband for his consideration and thoughtfulness Do not thk that you would be belittlg yourself by demonstratg your appreciation On the contrary you would be loved and cared for more because you appreciate the efforts your husband whereas snobbism and selfishness can only lead towards great misfortunes The followg are some Traditions referrg to the characteristics gratitude: "Imam as-Sadiq (a.s) stated: 'The best women among your women are those who show appreciation when their husbands brg home somethg and are not discontented if nothg is brought home'."39 © Ahlul Bayt Digital ic Library Project 1995-2018 Stephen Joseph Harper PC MP (born Ap) was the 22nd Prime Mister Canada from. It is responsible for the advancement as well as the decle the larger society The small family environment Although a part a greater society enjoys an ternal dependence and that is why correctg a nation must start by improvg the family The responsibilities education trag and runng this sensitive social base lies with the women Therefore women through their deeds and behaviour towards their family can determe the deterioration or progress a nation Thus the job a housewife is sensitive respectable and revered Those who underestimate the family unit and are ashamed with this job are fact ignorant its values A housewife should be proud her position She is holdg a position honour and sacrifice for the good society Buddhism does not proscribe any specific sexual practices only rulg out "sexual misconduct" the Five Precepts. Zoroastrianism allows cous s. Sikhism largely follows the pattern ban on the same clan s many Sikhs choose to marry their children with a partner from a different village or town just to avoid chances consanguity between them. The holy religion strongly recommends people to observe cleanless "Imam as-Sadiq (a.s) stated: 'Almighty Allah likes adornment beg beautiful and fds the pretention beg poor as distasteful He likes to see the effects his blessgs upon his worshipper that is to see him clean tidy and usg scent to decorate his house to dust f his house environment to turn the lights on before sunset -because this deed takes away the poverty from home and creases sustenance.'" 97 "The Prophet Allah (S) stated: ' A dirty person is a bad servant (to Allah)'."98 Classifyg your dishes: Do not pile them all on top each other Leave all the cutlery one place and place the dishes somewhere else Put all the dishes for guests separate from the dishes you use everyday Do the same for every thg else Every thg must be put its proper place so that all the family members are able to fd them even the dark Some ladies may believe that such a program suits the rich and the wealthy But this is not correct even poor people should arrange their belonggs cludg their dishes beds and clothes For stance the wife should keep her own clothes separate from her husband's and her children's The wter clothes must be separate from summer ones Dirty clothes must have their own place The ornaments must be put their proper locations Teach your children to be tidy with their clothes books toys etc You can be certa that by beg tidy your children would learn and would follow you Women usually like their men to be nearby and prefer them to be home when it becomes dark Women want their husbands to have a decent job with a high salary They like to have enough time to go out the evengs But unfortunately the jobs most men do not live up to their wives' expectations and this for some families is a source rows and arguments A driver who has been on the road for a few nights who has not had a decent sleep and has not been eatg regularly enters his house to rest and fd peace and comfort with his family Then his wife without sparg a moment starts to moan and groan: "What is this life? Why do you leave me with these kids and where have you been? I have to do all the work myself because you are not here to help I am fed up with these naughty children As a matter f act drivg is not a good job You should either change your job or settle with me I can't live like this any longer!" The followg is a Chese poem by Po Chu-yi (A.D 772–846). "imam Ali (a.s) stated: 'Engage ; because this is the tradition the Prophet (S) Allah'."2 "The Prophet Allah (swt) stated: 'Whoever chooses to follow my tradition must get married and produce fsprg through (and crease the population Muslims) so that on the day resurrection I shall confront other Ummah (nations) with the (great) numbers my Ummah'.'"3 "Imam Rida (a.s) stated: 'The greatest ga for a man is a faithful woman who when she sees him becomes happy and protects his property and her own honor his absence'."4 "imam Muhammad Taqi (a.s) stated: ' Associatg with friends matures one's md and enlivens one's heart be it even only slightly'." 123 the turbulent sea life one's soul needs tranquility and this peace md can be found when keepg company with one's friends People would forget their problems while present a friendly gatherg Not only can friendships become stronger but it would serve to boost one's morale Entertag guests is a good custom and rarely one would deny its merits but there are two difficulties with it that make some families reluctant to take part this age-old tradition Undoubtedly there must be a deep understandg and cooperation among the members a family but there must also be a manager who can act responsibly with regard to the family matters Needless to say if a family does not enjoy a person who can organize others it would suffer from disorder and chaos Thus either the husband must act as the director and the wife follows or vice versa However sce the logical aspect men is domant over their emotional aspect they can be better managers The Almighty Allah states the Holy Qur'an: الرِّجَالُ قَوَّامُونَ عَلَى النِّسَاءِ بِمَا فَضَّلَ اللَّهُ بَعْضَهُمْ عَلَىٰ بَعْضٍ وَبِمَا أَنْفَقُوا مِنْ أَمْوَالِهِمْ ۚ فَالصَّالِحَاتُ قَانِتَاتٌ Those women whose husbands work outside have freedom at home But some men work at home like poets writers paters or scientists who need to read a great deal The wives such men have less freedom at home and therefore their lives are different The above-mentioned jobs require concentration talent and tellect Therefore there will be a need for privacy and silence One hour work peace is equivalent to a few hours work a busy and noisy surroundg The problem is clear On the one hand the man needs a quiet place to work and on the other hand the wife wants to move around the house freely If a woman plans the affairs such a house such a way that her husband can get on with his job surely she has accomplished a valuable task Such an achievement is certaly not easy especially when there are children around But nevertheless the problem must be solved because the progress the husband his job would be based. Sir William Muir KCSI (1819 – 1905) was a Scottish historian and writer specialisg the history the time Muhammad and the early caliphate Dear Madam! If your husband becomes poor must you add to his problems by havg disagreeable behaviour If he becomes ill and bed-ridden either at home or the hospital it is fair for you to crease your kdness towards him You must nurse him attend to his needs and spend money for him If you have money your own you must pay for his treatment Remember if you were ill he would have paid for your health Must you withhold your wealth preference to your husband's health? If you fail to satisfy him at sensitive times like this then he will be disappoted with you and may even prefer to divorce you Anyone who is good-natured with a pleasant disposition would also face the hardships and problems life the same manner These are the kds personality that people are attracted to and contually seek The pleasant disposition and attitude a person would be immune to psychological disorders sce their outlook to life is to overcome their hardships the best feasible manner "Imam as-Sadiq (a.s) stated: 'No life is more agreeable than the one which is a pleasant nature'."26 Housewives even not busy with their housework should fd somethg to do They can read books conduct research on somethg useful and add to their knowledge and skills They can write articles and even books They can engage drawg patg tailorg knittg sewg and so forth As a result they can help their families economically as well as contributg to their society by makg their achievements available to the public Workg prevents the development many mental disorders "Imam Ali (a.s) stated: ' Allah likes a pious person who is honestly engaged dog. Ask him firmly to tell you the truth His ability explag the subject your suspicion is not dicative his guilt It is possible that he may really forget somethg or he may be a panic At this pot do not pursue the matter further and leave it for a more appropriate occasion If he says to you that he has forgotten somethg accept it However if you are still doubt vestigate through other channels Third: Do not voice your suspicion with anyone you see sce they may be your foes Enemies always endorse your claims and might even add a few lies to it order to shatter your life They may not be foes but a bunch foolish simple and experienced people who reforce your claims sympathetically They may be you r close relatives or close friends Consultation is only useful with wise clever and genue sympathizers If you need to consult someone then fd the right people and discuss it. A poor driver who has such a wife cannot be expected to perform well on his job and may endanger his life; and the lives those whom he transports A doctor who from morng to night visits tens patients cannot cope with the grumblg his wife Then how could he contue to practise medice? A worker who works durg the night shifts cannot enthusiastically pursue his job if his wife is a shrewish woman How can a scientist be successful his field research if his wife is constantly naggg him? These are the tests which distguish the wise women from the ignorant ones Dear Madam! Your husband is a human beg like you He is not perfect but he may have many merits If you are terested your and your family then do not set out to fd his weaknesses Do not regard his small defects as important Do not compare him with an ideal man whom you have established your md There may be some faults with your husband which are not present others But you should remember that other men may have other defects which are non-existent yours Be satisfied with his merits You will consequently see that his merits outweigh his faults Besides why should you expect a perfect husband when you are imperfect yourself If you are proud enough to thk you are perfect then ask others "The Prophet Allah (S) stated: 'There is nothg worse for human begs than to seek the faults others while ignorg their. The task a wife is to mata and take care a husband It is not an easy undertakg Those women who are unaware this feature their role may fd difficulty fulfillg the task It is a job for the woman who is aware that the job requires a degree sagacity style and genuity For a woman to be a successful wife she should w over her husband's heart and be a source comfort to him She should encourage him to do good deeds while dissuadg him from bad ones She should also provide adequate measures to mata his health and well-beg The results her efforts are directed towards makg the man to a kd and respected husband who would be a proper guardian for his family and a good father from whom the children would seek guidance and respect Allah the All-Knowg has endowed woman with extraordary power The prosperity and happess as well as the misery the family are. "a man said: 'I am fed up with my wife's obsession with cleanless and tidess Everyday when I return home at 4-30 pm my wife makes me wash my hands and feet a few times She wants me to put my clothes their proper place She doesn't even let me smoke all the rooms I have always lived freely but durg the four years my I have been livg a prison Why should one care for cleanless and tidess so much This is an obsession and I hate obsession'." 115 A moderate behaviour is the best all aspects one's life One should not be so chaotic that it becomes impossible to live a normal life and also one should not overdulge cleanless to the extent that it becomes an obsession Frank Vcent Zappa (1940 – 1993) was a critically acclaimed musician songwriter composer recordg engeer record producer and film director He was ducted to the Rock and Roll Hall Fame and received the Grammy Lifetime Achievement Award وَإِذْ تَأَذَّنَ رَبُّكُمْ لَئِنْ شَكَرْتُمْ لَأَزِيدَنَّكُمْ وَلَئِنْ كَفَرْتُمْ إِنَّ عَذَابِي لَشَدِيدٌ "And when your Lord made it known: If you are grateful would certaly give to you more and if you are ungrateful My chastisement is fully severe"(14:7) Dear Madam! Your husband is also human Like everyone else he enjoys beg appreciated He is willg to support his family and regards it as a moral and lawful obligation When he is thanked and appreciated for dog his duty those duties no longer seem to be a burden "imam Baqir (a.s) stated: 'Whoever spends his day and night seekg knowledge would surely be enjoed by the blessgs Allah’''135 If you are not terested readg or research then keep yourself busy with handicraft or artistic hobbies such as dress makg patg knittg flower decorations etc You can learn such arts and practice them These skills may help you mentally and fancially has also proposed handicraft to women their spare time The Prophet Allah (S) stated: "Spng (and weavg) is a good pastime. Arthur Jeffery (1892 – 1959) was an Australian pressor Semitic languages first at the School Oriental Studies Cairo and from 1938 until his death jotly at Columbia University and Union Theological Semary New York City He is the author extensive historical studies Middle Eastern manuscripts William Ewart Gladstone (1809 – 1898) was a British Liberal statesman He served as Prime Mister four separate times (1868–1874 1880–1885 February–July 1886 and 1892–1894) more than any other person Obviously one would not choose the former because if one did then she would either have to live a misery with her husband or divorce him If she contues to live with her husband then she along with her husband and the children would suffer the case divorce she would probably have to go to live with her parents this case they would not accept her as a member the family and would try to get rid her She would be degraded and humiliated before all the other members the family It is also not easy to live alone It will also not be easy to marry aga How can one be sure that the next round will be any better What about the children? What about the children the next man? She might end up so frustrated that she might kill herself She may become so difficult to live with that the next man she marries may run away from her or even kill himself The educated women have a greater responsibility this job and thus should be models to others They should practically prove that beg educated does not contradict the position beg a housewife but that it also helps beg a better housewife The educated woman should manage the family life the best possible manner She should be proud housekeepg and should prove that an educated housewife is much better than an uneducated one It is not proper for her to abandon housework on the pretext beg educated Education is not meant to shirk one's responsibilities but it should help one perform his responsibilities better Dear Madam! Do not be foolish and do not jump to conclusions When you have time sit down and write down all the pro and grounds regardg your husband's unfaithfulness Then front each pot write down the other aspects to the problem and the probability their occurrence Next place yourself as a fair judge and thk deeply about the written pots If they do not convce you that he is guilty then you can either forget the matter or make further vestigations For stance the presence a strand hair your husband's car may be easily explaed by one the followg: (a) It may belong to one your husband's relatives such as his sister mother aunt or their children (b) It may be one your own (c) He might have given a lift to his friend or relative accompanyg his wife and the strand hair might be hers (d) He might have given a lift to a helpless woman "a woman left her husband and went to her father's house because her husband had bad breath She was not prepared to go back home until he corrected his problem On the basis the husband's complat the court reconciled the couple and the wife returned to him When the couple went home the wife could still smell his bad breath so she went to another room The husband went crazy and killed her'."42 A female dentist divorced her husband because he was not on the same level as her; he had graduated three years. Cook the food he likes and which is good for him Ask about his health frequently Try to stay by his bedside as much as possible If he is so much pa that he cannot sleep stay up with him as much as possible Once you wake up go to him Ask how is he If he had not slept that night then express your sorrow Keep his room silent the daytime Your care for him would help him recover faster He would appreciate your efforts and would love you more Besides he would do the same for you if you ever became ill "The Prophet Allah (S) stated: 'The Jihad a woman is to care for her husband well'."73 John R Newman is an historian religions who specializes dian and Tibetan Buddhism His research focuses on the Vajrayana Buddhist Kalachakra Tantra ("Wheel Time system mysticism") tradition "and say to the believg women that they should cast down their looks and guard their private parts and not display their ornaments except what appears there and let them wear their head covergs and not display their ornaments except to their husbands or their fathers or the father their husbands their sons or the sons their husbands or their brothers or their brother's sons or their sisters' sons or their women or those whom their right hands possess or male servants not havg need ( women) or the children who have not attaed knowledge what is hidden women; and let them not strike their feet so that what they hide their ornaments may be known; and turn to Allah all you so that you may be successful (24:31)." ic Hijab and its observance society is beneficial to women many aspects: It is customary with some women that when upset with their husbands they sulk refuse to talk do not attend to household work do not eat hit the children or grumble They believe that not speakg or quarrellg are the best possible ways revengg their husbands This attitude not only fails to punish the man but may result his retaliation Life then becomes difficult turng to a series quarrels The woman moans then the man does The woman refuses to talk and the man retaliates The woman does somethg else and the man does the same until they become tired and through the mediation relatives or friends reconcile But this is not the only time they had a row There will be other occasions and there will be a few more days bitterness Therefore spendg a lifetime family rows will not be pleasant for either the parents or the children Most the runaway youth come from these kds families who then turn to crime and corruption Dear lady! Before your you may have had other fers matrimony These fers may be from rich educated handsome men etc whom you may have wished to marry Such expectations were natural before your But now that you have chosen your partner and signed a sacred covenant with him to be together for the rest your life then forget the past altogether You must put aside your past wishes and forget those past fers Do not thk any men except your husband and fd peace with him If you do otherwise you will place yourself a straed condition Now that you have agreed to live with your husband why should you be constantly noticg other man? Why should you compare him with others? What do you achieve by lookg at other men except puttg yourself a permanently miserable state and cause mental anguish for yourself? Mustafa Kemal Atatürk (1881 – 1938) was a Turkish army ficer revolutionary statesman writer and founder the Republic Turkey as well as its first president Robert Redeker is a philosophy teacher and writer for Le Figaro Considerg that Jihad is the struggle and holy war the path Allah cludg the struggle for advancement and honor defendg the ic territories and execution social justice it is one the highest acts worship The value fulfillg the duties a proper spouse is also reflected upon when considerg Jihad "The Prophet (S) stated: ' Any woman who dies while her husband is pleased with her enters Paradise'."12 The Holy Prophet also stated: "If a woman does not perform her duty as a spouse she has not done her duty. If your husband is a night-shift worker he is missg his night's good sleep order to meet the expenses his family Try to get used to it and do not express your dissatisfaction If you get bored then you can do some the housework sewg and readg at night the morng prepare the breakfast when your husband comes back from work and then prepare his bed a quiet place Keep the children quiet and teach them not to disturb their father when he is restg You can even sleep less at night and take a rest with your husband durg the day But do not forget that he has been awake all the night and the sleep durg the day to him is the same as the night sleep for you Women this situation have to have two programs one for themselves and one for their husbands "imam Ali (a.s) stated: 'Whoever leaves his eyes at liberty will always suffer through his nerves and will be trapped a permanent state envy'."4649 By lookg at other men and comparg your husband with them you will fd a man who does not have your husband's faults You might then thk that man is perfect because you are not aware the deficiencies such a man You regard your as a failure and this thought might lead to disastrous ends "the Prophet (S) then added: 'The worst your women is she who obeys her relatives but does not submit to the wishes her husband is barren and vdictive is not afraid committg bad deeds adorns herself the absence her husband would not accede to the wishes her husband privacy would not accept his excuses and would not forgive his mistakes',"68 Here is a case to read about: "A person came to the court to divorce his wife He said: 'I became ill a few days ago and my doctor told me that had to have an operation I asked my wife to lend me the money that she had saved She disagreed and left my house As a result I had my operation a state hospital Now that I have my health back I am not prepared to live with a woman who prefers her money to her husband How can one call this woman a 'wife'?" 81 Every conscientious person would acknowledge that the above-mentioned case it was the man who was right Such a woman who is not prepared to spend her money for the treatment her husband does not deserve the respected position 'wifehood' There's a belief that every word the Quran is literally true and there's a kd close-mdedness there which is I thk less present the former Christendom Perhaps because we've had long- I don't know quite why but there's more a historical tradition questiong If necessary one should spend his earngs for his family and himself but if not needed then he should donate his earngs from work to those who need his help Idleness is tedious and more ten than not causes mental and psychological disorders as well as moral corruption The best job for married women is to take care the house Housekeepg childcare etc are the best and the easiest jobs that women can do A talented and hardworkg housewife can turn her house to a heavenly place for her children and husband; and this is a valuable and worthwhile job "The Prophet (S) stated: 'A woman's Jihad is when she attends to her husband (and takes care. Do not image for a second that the position the man is beg defended here and that he is not guilty Not at all course he is guilty He should not vent his anger out on his family the next chapter this pot will be discussed more detail but here we are sayg that a woman should be wise and not react towards her husband's anger be it right or not this situation the man may not be able to control himself so it is important that the wife order to save her family remas silent "a man said the court: 'It was a month ago when I was comg back from a party that my colleagues asked me to give him and his wife a lift back home The day after my wife asked me to take her to her parents' On the way she looked back and found a strand hair on the back seat the car She asked who this strand hair belonged to I was a panic and could not give her a proper explanation I dropped her at her parents' house and went to work When I went to pick her up that night she refused to come with me I asked why? She said to me that I should better live with the owner the strand hair'."54 If love is mutual the marital foundation becomes strong and the dangers separation are averted Do not proudly thk that your husband fell love with you at first sight because such love is not lastg A lastg love is through kdness and permanent affection the form a very close friendship If you love your husband and have a good friendship he will be happy and willg to strive and sacrifice himself for your well-beg A man who enjoys the love his wife rarely suffers from poor health or has emotional problems If a man is deprived a warm and friendly relationship with his spouse he may become disheartened and may avoid his home He may end up spendg a great deal time out his home search friends and attention He may say to himself: "Why should I work and support the people who do not like me I might as well enjoy myself and try to fd genue friends." "imam as-Sadiq (a.s.) stated: 'Two Rak'ats (units) a married person's Salat (prayer) are better than seventy Rak'ats fered by a bachelor'."6 A faithful pious and harmonious partner plays a crucial role havg a respectable and honest life deed havg such a partner is an important factor when wantg to avoid evil deeds and enables the commitment oneself performg the obligatory acts worship A pious couple not only would not meet with any obstacle achievg religious goals but would be a source encouragement to each other Is it really possible for a faithful man Allah to gloriously fight His way without the approval his wife? Is it possible for any pious person to earn his livg lawfully observg all religious aspects payg statutory religious alms to avoid extravagance and to spend on charitable deeds without the consent. William "Bill" Maher Jr (born Janu) is an American stand-up comedian television host political commentator author and actor Maher currently ranks number 38 on Comedy Central's 100 greatest stand-ups all time and has a Hollywood Walk. Dear lady! stead beg covetous try to be reasonable Spend more time and effort for the well-beg your family and husband rather than tryg to imitate everyone If your husband spends lavishly then stop him and curb his unnecessary expenses stead buyg non-essential commodities it is better to save some money for a ray day " a tradition the Holy Prophet (S) stated: 'Any woman who is not compatible with her husband and persuades him to act beyond his capacity then her deeds would not be accepted by Allah She would taste the wrath Allah on the Day Resurrection'."34 another Tradition the Holy Prophet (S) stated: If your husband attends to the needs a widow and her children regard him as a charitable person who is dog this for the sake Allah If your husband has a private desk or a safe; and if he does not let you read his letters do not thk him as havg a mistress Men generally have a sense secrecy and modesty They do not like others to be formed their affairs perhaps they possess secret materials which are red to their work Perhaps he does not regard you as a person who could keep a secret Any way a possibility is just that and it should not be considered as a. (3) Reproduction: Through the procreation mankd is contued Children are the result and are important factors stabilizg the family foundations as well as a source real joy to their parents A great deal emphasis has been given the Holy Qur'an and the Traditions to both and havg children The Almighty Allah states the Holy Qur'an: وَمِنْ آيَاتِهِ أَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُمْ مِنْ أَنْفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَاجًا … "And among His signs is this that He created for you mates from among yourselves " (30:21) "The Prophet (S) stated: 'There is no better structure founded. David Samuel Margoliouth (1858 – 1940) was an orientalist who was described as a brilliant editor and translator Arabic works He was briefly active as a priest the Church England He was Laudian Pressor Arabic at the University Oxford from. But today a new challenge — another ism — confronts us and that is the challenge ic fundamentalism Extremist has declared war on the rest the world as evidenced by their ruthless attacks across the globe — overwhelmgly targeted at nocent civilians Beside the outrage 9/11 the bombgs Madrid Bali London and most recently Jordan come. Do not let him deviate from the path which has been paved by the order to creation Encourage him to read books Do not let his personality cease to grow If he is short time to buy or obta books then with his or a friend's supervision obta the books his terest Give the books to him and encourage him to read them You should read books and useful magazes too If through readg you come across an article which is useful for your husband then form him it This act has several benefits: (a) Through the repetition this act your husband will become a learned person who would be a credit to you and himself Moreover he would become a brilliant specialist whose services would be beneficial to him as well as his society (b) Sce through his studies and research he has conformed with the laws creation he would be less prone to mental and nervous disorders "the Holy Prophet (S) stated: 'The duty a woman is to answer the call at the door and welcome her husband'."'18 "Imam as-Sadiq (a.s.) stated: 'A woman who respects her husband and does not harass him will be fortunate and prosperous'."19 "The Holy Prophet (S) stated: 'A wife is duty-bound to arrange for a bas and towel to wash her husband's hands'."20 Cous s the United Kgdom clude Charles Darw Queen Victoria and John Granville Harkness royalty between couss was common Kg Phillip II Spa also husband Queen Mary I England had first married his first cous on both sides Maria Manuela Prcess Portugal. Once they detect your love towards your husband and children through the firmness your tongue then they may become disappoted with misleadg you and you will not be disturbed aga Do not thk that they would become upset or that you would lose your friends If they are your true friends then they should not be hurt and should even thank you If they are your enemies then what is better than avoidg them If you encounter those who are persistent their evil act then cut f your relationship with them The Satisfaction Your Husband and Not Your Mother A girl while her parents' house is duty-bound to satisfy them However once she is married her role changes Arthur Schopenhauer (1788 – 1860) was an fluential German philosopher known for his pessimism and philosophical clarity It also happens that some men some times come back home r than usual If this is the case and the number the arrivals to home are with an acceptable limit then there is no need to worry because men are sometimes engaged certa unexpected events which they try to pursue after their work However if the number arrivals exceeds the accepted limit then his wife should make an effort to vestigate But vestigation is not easy; it requires patience and wisdom; one must avoid anger or protest Fourthly a tidy house is a source pride for the whole family Whoever visits it appreciates it and admire the woman's talent and good taste Havg many luxurious items would not beautify a house but the manner which the household contents are arranged would make it attractive You must have seen wealthy people whose house despite contag many luxurious items is borg and there are poor people whose houses because beg orderly are enjoyable to look at Therefore arrangg a house is one the duties housewives Talented ladies with good taste know how to put their houses order but mentiong a few pots here may prove useful Pope Benedict XVI (born Joseph Alois Ratzger on Ap) is Pope Emeritus the Catholic Church havg served as Pope from. This sort attitude is correct Women this sort thk that their husbands are gog on a picnic or pleasure-ride every morng Men confront hundreds problems everyday Dear lady! you do not know what your husband has gone through when he is at work You do not know what rude and obnoxious people he has had to deal with all the day So when he comes home you should not present all your complats at the same time He should not feel guilty beg a man Be fair and be considerate to him If you by grumblg and naggg add to his worries and anguish then he may either start a row or just leave the house and go to a cafe cema or even walk around the streets وَمِنْ آيَاتِهِ أَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُمْ مِنْ أَنْفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَاجًا لِتَسْكُنُوا إِلَيْهَا وَجَعَلَ بَيْنَكُمْ مَوَدَّةً وَرَحْمَةً إِنَّ فِي ذَٰلِكَ لَآيَاتٍ لِقَوْمٍ يَتَفَكَّرُونَ "And one His signs is that He created mates for you from yourselves that you may fd rest them and He put between you love and compassion; most surely there are signs this for a people who reflect (30:21)." "Imam Rida (a.s) stated: 'Some women are blessgs for their husbands who express their love and affection'."15 Omar Khayyám (1048 – 1131 AD) was a Persian polymath mathematician philosopher astronomer physician and poet He wrote treatises on mechanics geography. On the fluence on Christian Europe: The worst characteristic which the Spaniards acquired was the parasitism the Arabs and the nomad Africans: the custom livg f one's neighbour's territory the raid raised to the level an stitution maraudg and brigandage recognized as the sole means existence for the man-at-arms the same way they went to w their bread Moorish territory so the Spaniards r went to w gold and territory Mexico and Peru They were to troduce there too the barbarous summary practices the Arabs: puttg everythg to fire and sword cuttg down fruit-trees razg crops devastatg whole districts to starve out the enemy and brg them to terms; makg slaves everywhere condemng the population the conquered countries to forced labour All these detestable ways the conquistadores learnt from. Vitams are also important for the growth strengtheng the bones regulatg the chemical reactions the body and are vital matag a healthy nervous system Each the above substances is vital for the body Malnutrition causes many illnesses and can be fatal The quality the food is important and has a proportional relationship with one's life span happess or sadness beauty or ugless and healthy nerves or mental disorders We are what we eat If one monitors his food and cares for his eatg habits he would become ill less frequently It is not wise to eat just delicious food without ponderg over its quality Once one's health is impaired as a result bad food one would have to seek medical treatment by a doctor but unfortunately the human body would never be restored to its origal health A woman applied for a divorce because her husband used to sit on the floor and eat with his fgers did not shave everyday and did not know how to socialize with others'."44 course all women are not like this There are those who are telligent realistic and aware enough that they do not foolishly jeopardize their and happess by exaggeratg the shortcomgs their husbands (C) Ladies should be aware that although they are workg outside the house they are still expected by their husbands and children to attend to such activities as housekeepg cookg washg and so forth This can be done by cooperation with the family An outside job should not pave the way for upsettg the whole family Men are also advised to help their wives with regard to housekeepg Husbands should not expect their wives to work both outside and side the house on their own Such an expectation is neither lawful nor fair Men and women should share the housework (d) If a woman who workg outside has a child then she should leave the child a nursery or with someone trusted and kd It is neither right nor wise to leave children at home on their own sce many children become fearful or helpless when they have to confront dangerous situations On the other hand if the woman spends the money on her clothes and adornment or if she spends on unnecessary items and they would have to borrow order to live or if the family like an fidel enemy plunders his wealth then the man will become disheartened He would lose terest workg and supportg his family He would thk it illogical to work and support the people who do not appreciate his efforts He may even go astray and follow a corrupt path It might shatter the foundations the family Dear Madam! Although your husband's money and wealth is at your disposal do not regard it as your own The wealth is lawfully his and you are the trusted one Therefore takg any item to your possession givg anythg away presentg or sellg any his belonggs needs his permission You are responsible for his wealth and as such you must protect it If you shirk your responsibility you would be questioned the world Hereafter Therefore the purpose should be searched for this spiritual context The aim for a religious person should be a means avoidg evil deeds and purgg one's soul ss It should be a means acquirg nearness to the Almighty Allah It is this context that a suitable and good partner assumes an important role When two believers through form a family their sexual relationship would benefit them strengtheng their mutual love and kdness for such a couple there would not exist any dangerous threats sexual perversion dangerous addictions or unlawful deeds The Prophet (S) and all the Imams (a.s) have laid great emphasis on the stitution "The Prophet (S) stated: 'Whoever gets married has safeguarded half his religion'."5 The housewife starts her job after lunch She suddenly confronts many problems She has to do the cookg washg sweepg dustg arrangg the guestroom and so on Also she has to do all this and more on her own or at the most with only one person helpg her She begs to work with a great deal worry She looks for the knife to cut the onions searches the house for salt etc She realizes that there is not any tomato the house so she sends somebody to buy it She must then fry the chickens cut the meat soak the rice water clean the vegetables etc She becomes touchy and nervous and then shouts at the servant curses her daughter hits her son and then runs out gas or kerosene "Oh God! What shall I do?” she screams "the Holy Prophet (S) also stated: 'The women Paradise say to those women who abuse their husbands this way: 'May Allah kill you Do not misbehave with your husband This man (the husband) is not yours and you do not deserve him Soon he will leave you and come towards us'." 24 I do not know what such women want to achieve by their grumblg If they want to attract their husband's attention or to show f then surely they achieve the exact opposite and exasperate him If they tend to distress him to create for him psychological problems and to lead him towards fatal artificial addictions then they are on the right track Dear lady! if you care about your husband and your family then you should give up this improper and illogical attitude Have you ever thought that your misconduct may lead towards breakg up your family life? A pious person would always vite his partner to goodness just as a corrupt person would tempt his partner towards corruption It is then reasonable that men and women who want to get married are advised to regard the piety and good manners their future partners as essential conditions "The Prophet (S) stated: 'If I were to bestow all the good both worlds upon a Muslim person I would endow him with a humble heart a tongue which contuously utters his praises a body patient enough to withstand all calamities; and I would give him a pious spouse who when she sees him becomes happy and protects his property and her own honor his absence'."7 Dear Madam! Be wise and sacrificg Do not be selfish Now that your husband's job has taken you away from your hometown do not cause him any distress If he is a civil servant he has orders to travel on duty and if he has a private busess then surely it is to his advantage to live another location If your husband forms you that he has to live another place then you should agree at once You should then help pack up and move to new places where you must try to feel at home Plan your life this new home and adapt yourself to it Sce you are new the area and probably not familiar with the characteristics the habitants be cautious with them After a while with the help and supervision your husband try to make friends from among the chaste and trustworthy women Experience shows that when one needs the help others friends leave but the abandoned relatives come to help This is because the family ties are natural and cannot be broken easily There is a general proverb which says: "Even if one's flesh is eaten by relations they would not throw away the bones!" "Imam Ali (a.s) stated: 'One is never able to do without his relatives even though he may possess wealth and children'."50 One would need the respect and kdness one's relatives It is they who would support one physically and mentally Relatives always come to the rescue times need they could come to one's assistance faster than others Whoever disowns his relatives will lose many. Firstly dear sir! You should remember that your wife even though suspicious you loves you She is terested your children and the family home She is afraid separation She would defitely suffer from your deplorable life situation If she did not love you she would not have been jealous So she does not like the present situation but what can she do if she is ill? Some patients have rheumatism and some have cancer Your wife suffers from a mental disorder and if you do not believe it then take her to a psychiatrist You should treat her sympathetically and compassionately You should not be angry with her or have arguments No one could quarrel with an ill person Do not react harshly to her impoliteness or allegations Do not end up fightg with her Do not go to any courts Do not ignore her Do not talk about divorce and separation None these acts can cure her illness; fact it might become worse Your unkdness would serve as a source her suspicion Case (b): The man forms his wife that ten their friends will be comg for dner on Friday night The wife responds by sayg "Very well what should we prepare for dner that night?" The couple decides on this matter together and then writes down all the necessary items needed for the party They recheck their needs aga and by crossg out those items that they already have their house re-write the items that they would have to purchase Then good time they do their shoppg On Thursday a day before the party they fish some the work such as cuttg onions washg the potatoes fillg the salt and pepper shakers preparg the table wares and so on The followg morng the woman the house after eatg breakfast carries out some her tasks like washg cuttg and fryg the meat chicken and potatoes After lunch she can take a rest after which she can fish the remader. Men and women although havg many aspects common also possess unique characteristics One such characteristic is that women are delicate beautiful and likable begs They are charmg attractive and lovable; whereas men are charmed attracted by and love women's qualities When a man marries a woman he wishes all his wife's beauty and affection to be reserved for him He wishes to be the only one who benefits from her charm affection coquettishness beauty sense humour etc and to strictly avoid men Man is by nature very ardent and tolerant another man either lookg at his wife or havg any kd relationship with her He would regard a close relationship between his wife and other men to be a violation his lawful right He expects his wife to observe ic Hijab (statutory ic dress for women) and by adaptg herself to ic behaviour and ethics she cooperates matag his lawful rights The husband is trapped an argument where he cannot take sides On the one hand is his wife who would like to have an dependent life without any terference from outsiders He naturally feels that he must support her and make her happy But on the other hand he thks his parents who have helped him with his life education and have spent their own lives brgg him up He feels that his parents expect him to help them their times need and that it would not be fair to abandon them Besides if he himself was need somethg who else other than his parents would help him and his family As a result he realizes that his best and most trustworthy friends are his parents and relatives So the dilemma for a sensible man is either to choose the wife and abandon the parents or vice versa; but neither these is possible "the Prophet (a.s) Allah stated: 'A woman is the protector and trustee her husband's wealth and as such is responsible'." 124 "The Prophet Allah (S) also stated: 'The best your women is one who perfumes herself prepares delicious food and would not overdulge spendg Such a woman is a representative and one the workforce Allah and a person who works for Allah would never be faced with regret or defeat'."125128 " a tradition Imam Rida (a.s) stated: 'There are a group women who raise many children They are kd and sympathetic They support their husbands times difficulty and the affairs this world and the next These women do not commit any acts which would cur a loss upon their husbands nor multiply their difficulties'."38 Human begs are by nature potentially able to make progress The love for attag perfection exists all us; and we have been created for achievg perfection Everyone any job at any age and any condition is able to progress and mature One should never be content with mere existence and should not forget the purpose creation One must try to acquire perfection one's own lifetime Even though everyone is pursug for progress not all are successful Makg progress needs high aspirations and a great deal hard work One must prepare the ground and remove the obstacles after which one must take the necessary steps the path progress The personality a man is largely dependent on his wife's desires A woman can be helpful her husband's progress as much as she could be detrimental. (5) If all women observed the regulation ic Hijab then all women could rest assured that their husbands when not at home would not encounter a lewd woman who might draw his attention away from the family is aware woman's specific nature creation and regards her as a very important base society with responsibilities towards it It demands her to make sacrifices to carry out her responsibility by observg ic Hijab which turn would forestall social corruption and deviation and go a long way creatg stability security and glorifyg her nation But defitely the greatest reward is with the Almighty Allah for performg her. Dear madam! You should remember that if your husband reacts harshly towards you for not speakg with him then he might even resort to severe measures such as hittg you You would probably leave you r house to go to your parents' as the result his harsh reaction Next your parents would terfere and the row s between your husband and you would widen You might end up gettg a divorce which case you would lose more than your husband You might have to live on your own for the rest your life You will certaly regret a divorce "A woman said: 'I got married some time ago I did not know much about carg for my husband and he did not know much about lookg after me We used to have row everyday One week I wasn't talkg and the week after he was refusg to speak. "men are the mataers women because Allah has made some them to excel others and because they spend out their money; the good women are therefore obedient (4:34)." Thus it is the terest the members a family to regard the man as their guardian and the one charge and to seek his supervision their deeds However one should not conclude that the status a woman the house is belittled but it is a fact that matag the order and disciple the house requires the management the husband Women who can thk without beg biased would confirm. Be careful not to humiliate him do not talk to him harshly do not abuse him do not be attentive to him and do not call him by any obscene titles If you fend him he turn will sult you Eventually the spirit love and trust will erode Consequently you will have constant quarrels and arguments which may lead to a divorce Even if you contue to live together your lives will surely be filled with many turbulent moments Feelgs antagonism and psychological disturbances may build up to the pot that it becomes hazardous to the couple's life that it may lead to crime The followg stories illustrate some. Once you have prepared the room and his requirements leave him Do not talk loudly and do not allow the children to make a noise Teach your children not to play noisily while their father is workg Do not talk to him about daily matters Answer the door and the telephone when it rgs If anybody wants to see him or talk to him tell them he is busy Enterta your guests durg his break times Tell your friends and relatives to visit you when your husband is not busy Your true friends would not be upset by your demand While you are dog your housework provide him with his needs Do not terrupt him Perhaps some women thk this way life is impossible They might say: "Is it possible for a woman to do the difficult housework and at the same time take care her husband and not to let anythg terrupt him?" Therefore those us who are seriously thkg brgg up honest and good children should correct their own behaviour first This is the only way to educate a child to be useful to himself and his society Nutrition and Hygiene Another important duty a housewife is feedg her children Health or illness beauty or ugless even good or bad temperedness and cleverness children are all red to the way they are fed Children have a different feedg pattern as compared with that adults They have different requirements at different ages and therefore mothers have to take this pot to consideration when feedg their children "the Prophet Allah (S) stated: 'The stomach is the centre all illnesses'."117 Sce the choice food is with the women therefore they are very much responsible for the family health The smallest carelessness on her part would expose the health all the family members to many illnesses Therefore a housewife besides beg a good cook should be able to identify the quality the food Firstly: She should make a food which has all the nourishment necessary for a human body to function properly "The Prophet Allah (S) stated: 'The duty a woman towards her husband is to turn the lights on the house and to prepare good and suitable food'." 118 Thomas Carlyle (1795 - 1881) was a Scottish satirical writer essayist historian and teacher durg the Victorian era "any woman who is not compatible with her husband is not content with what Allah has blessed them with and treats her husband harshly by demandg him to give more than he is able then her acts (or worship) are not acceptable by Allah and He will be angry with her'."35 " other tradition the Holy Prophet (S) stated: After havg faith Allah there is not any greater blessg than to have a compatible spouse'."36 At the time preoccupation and illness one needs to be nursed by others A nurse can assist the recovery an ill person tremendously through kdness and lovg care Men are small children who have grown up They still need motherly care When a man gets married to a woman he expects her to be a mother to him at times illness and difficulty Dear Madam! If your husband becomes ill take care him more than usual Express your sympathy and pretend that you are extremely upset with this sickness Console him prepare all his requirements and keep the children quiet order to keep him relaxed If he needs a doctor or medice then act accordgly. Pakistan cous is legal and common Reasons for consanguity are for economic and cultural reasons. As Pakistan is a diverse country consangueous is therefore favoured by 50–60% the population Pakistan. some areas higher proportion first-cous s Pakistan has been noted to be the cause an creased rate blood disorders the population  Beyond the age forty one becomes less active and thus needs less fat sugar and starch The calories are not turned to energy as much as before and therefore contribute towards the fatteng the body It is therefore better to reduce your consumption these substances A woman who cares for her husband's health should put him on a special diet to stop him from gettg fat He should eat less sweets fat and cream but more eggs liver poultry red meat fish and cheese Dairy products are also useful If permitted by the doctor the overweight person should consume plenty fruit and vegetables Is it not wise to get used to the existg situation and live more comfortably? Would you not rather welcome him with a smilg face and persuade him to carry on his job with a warm "Good-bye" when he leaves home for work? If you act kdly his terest his family would crease and he could work harder He would not iso himself from you; he would come home as early as possible; he would not have accidents and he would rema healthy his morals If a woman cooperates with her husband she can turn him to a respected man who can be a credit to her and the society A woman whose husband works at home should not expect him to baby sit to open the door to callers to go to the kitchen to help with the housework to shout at the children ; but she should image that he is not the house while he is workg Dear Madam! When your husband wants to go to his study room prepare his pen paper cigarettes ash-tray matches books and other items he requires Contrast Maryland delegates Henry B Heller and Kumar P Barve sponsored a bill to ban first-cous s 2000. It got further than Kahn's bill passg the House Delegates by 82 to 46 despite most Republicans votg no but fally died the state senate response to the 2005 Pennsylvanian first couss Eleanor Amrhe and Donald W Andrews Sr Maryland Heller said that he might resurrect the bill because such s are "like playg genetic roulette". Manuel II Palaiologos or Palaeologus (1350 – 1425) was the Byzante emperor from. يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا اجْتَنِبُوا كَثِيرًا مِنَ الظَّنِّ إِنَّ بَعْضَ الظَّنِّ إِثْمٌ ۖ "O you who believe! avoid most suspicion for surely suspicion some cases is a s (49:12)." "Imam as-Sadiq (a.s.) stated: '(The weight ) accusg an nocent person falsely is heavier than the high mountas'."61 "The Prophet Allah (S) stated: " Anyone who makes false accusations upon a believer Allah on the Day Resurrection will place him upon a heap fire order that he receives the punishment he deserves'."62 On this account the simple men need to be taken care By monitorg their activities the wise and well-wishg people would be dog them a great service The best people for this task however are the wives these men A wise and clever wife is able through a benevolent and wise attitude to achieve the greatest the tasks regardg her husband Such women however should remember not to directly terfere with the affairs their husband or to tell them the "do's" and the "don'ts" The reason for this is because men mostly do not like to be treated as tool the hands others; otherwise they may react sharply But a wise woman would monitor her husband's activities and watch his associates directly without his knowledge All a sudden the door bell rgs The guests have arrived! They come one after another The poor husband who is aware wife's anxiety welcomes the guests to the house and leads them to the sittg room He then tends to serve them with tea but he fds out that tea is not ready He shouts at his daughter or son for not puttg the kettle on the samovar Once the tea is made he fds out that they do not have enough sugar After havg to buy some more sugar he takes a few cups tea to the guests He looks at them but his md is the kitchen He knows what is gog on that quarter He cannot sit comfortably or talk to the guests peacefully He is worried about the dner It is even worse if there are women among the guests which case they keep askg where the woman the house is The man must answer that his wife is busy cookg and she will be with. The Haran Gawaitha is a Mandaean text written durg the 7th to 9th century and contas some the earliest non-Muslim references to Muhammad "a youth who was arrested on charges theft blamed his parents for his crime and said: 'My parents used to argue everyday after which they used to go to their relatives and I used to go to the streets and wander about I was then deceived by others and r committed theft'." 83 "A ten-year old girl told the social workers: 'I remember vaguely that one night my parents argued over somethg The followg day my mother left and a few days r my father took me to my aunt After a while an old woman took me from my aunt's house and brought me to Tehran It is a few years now that I have been livg with her and I suffered so much that I do not want to go back. Thus we must create such an atmosphere and livg environment that the child would naturally become an honest and pious person If a child grows up an environment honesty truthfulness bravery disciple cleanless kdness love freedom justice patience trustworthess faithfulness and sacrifice then he learns all that On the other hand a child who grows up a place corruption deception anger hate hypocrisy filth and disloyalty would evitably be affected by them Such a child may learn many stories about good and pious people but to no avail Dishonest parents cannot by teachg Qur'an and Hadith brg up honest children Dirty mother and father actually teach their child to be dirty A child pays more attention to his parent's deeds and not so much to. These evil-character women may pursue one or many goals They gossip for the sake revenge order to break up a family They may do it because jealousy or self- glorification They might want to cover their own deficiencies or deceive the simple women They may want to pretend that they are sympathetic They sometimes gossip for amusement and do not pursue any goal other than satisfyg their distasteful desires But what one can be sure is that deeds this kd are not committed order to help others and that such acts could have disastrous effects The readers have surely come across certa events which have occurred as the result gossip The followg is such. Bertrand Arthur William Russell (1872 – 1970) was a British philosopher logician mathematician historian socialist pacifist and social critic who is considered to be one the founders analytic philosophy The Hatti Sheriff commenced with the followg admirable commentary upon the friendly pression which troduced the letter to count Nesselrode ‘It is well known (said the Sultan) to almost every person that if the Mussulmen naturally hate the fidels the fidels on then part are the enemies the Mussulmen : that Russia more especially bears a particular hatred to ism and that she is the prcipal enemy the Sublime Porte.’ Therefore dear lady! For the sake Allah give up this habit complag at opportune moments Fd a suitable time and then present him with your genue problems not by complag but a consultative type way this way you do not create antagonistic feelgs him and the family bonds rema secure "The Prophet (S) stated: 'The prayers a woman who teases her husband with her tongue are not accepted (by Allah) even though she fasts everyday gets up for the acts worship every night sets free a few slaves and donates her wealth the way Allah A bad-tongue woman who hurts her husband this way is the first person who enters hell'."23 Carl Gustav Jung (1875 – 1961) was the Swiss founder analytical psychology He created some the best known psychological concepts and his work has been fluential psychiatry and the study religion literature and red fields
One's job is also a factor determg the type food one should eat For stance a worker needs more fatty sugary and starchy food because he is very active The weather is another factor Our nutritional requirements differ from each other the seasons summer and wter Also an ill person would eat differently from a healthy one A good cook should remember all these pots Thirdly: It is a fact that when one reaches the age forty and over he is likely to get fat Perhaps some people regard obesity as the sign health but they are mistaken Obesity is an illness which could have very bad effects on the heart blood pressure kidneys gall-bladder liver and may cause anga and diabetes Statistics comg from medical sources and surance companies suggest firstly that th people live longer than. One the important duties a housewife is matag cleanless the house Cleanless is the key to hygiene and health It prevents many illnesses and attracts the family members to the house It is a source respect for the family "The Prophet Allah (S) stated: 'The religion is based upon cleanless'." 95 "The Prophet Allah (S) also stated: ' is immacu so you should make efforts for cleanless because only the clean ones would enter Paradise'."96 Dear lady! While considerg the possibilities consider a higher status for your husband and encourage him to achieve it If he is terested contug his studies or if he wants to crease his knowledge through readg and research then do not stop him Encourage him to achieve his desires Plan your life a way that is not a hdrance his progress Try to assist him to make progress through creatg a relaxed and comfortable atmosphere at home If he is illiterate encourage him and humbly ask him to start his studies at night classes If he is educated encourage him to crease his knowledge by further readg If he is a medical doctor make him read the medical journals and other red articles If he is a teacher engeer or a judge then ask him to read the books and articles which are red to his specialization You should remember whatever position your husband holds there is an opportunity for him to make progress It is true that the everyday preoccupations life do not allow man to participate all the family affairs and that practice the wife runs the house accordg to her desires but nevertheless the right directorship remas with the man and as such he should be respected Therefore should a man express his opion about any pot the household matters or suggest any thg the wife should not oppose him or deny him his right directorship any way Otherwise the man would regard himself as powerless and look upon his wife as an impolite and ungrateful woman He might hold a grudge agast her and at a r stage even resist his wife's lawful wishes "The Prophet Allah (S) stated: ' A good woman would pay heed to her husband's wishes and would act accordg to his desires'." 77 6 An genious writer who a few years ago published a pompous translation the Koran takes great pas to give us a very favourable opion both Mahomet and his followers But he cannot wash the Ethiop white After all men who have but a moderate share reason cannot but observe his Koran even as polished by Mr Sale the most gross and impious absurdities To cite particulars is not now my busess It may suffice to observe general that human understandg must be debased to an conceivable degree those who can swallow such absurdities as dively revealed And yet we know the Mahometans not only condemn all who cannot swallow them to everlastg fire; not only appropriate to themselves the title Mussulman or True Believers: but even anathematise with the utmost bitterness and adjudge to eternal destruction all their brethren the sect Mi all who contend for a figurative terpretation them Pope Blessed Urban II (ca 1035 – 29 July 1099) born Otho de Lagery (alternatively: Otto Odo or Eudes) was Pope from 12 March 1088 until his death on 29 July 1099 Regardg the first Crusade: So she can fish all her cookg tidyg up and arrangg the house without any rush or worries There would be no need for arguments or any cause for confusion She would have enough time to get herself ready and prepare a cup tea when their guests arrive She can then welcome the guests alongside her husband and sit and talk to them She would just need to go to the kitchen to make sure everythg was gog smoothly She can ask her husband and the children to help her settg the food front the guests Therefore everyone would be able to comfortably enjoy their delicious meal Conclusion: The guests have enjoyed the company their hosts They have talked and their friendship had become stronger They have enjoyed the meal and have admired the housewife for her ability to enterta them Fally they have enjoyed an eveng which they would remember for a long time. Dear lady! You are the mistress your household Be wise and understandg Keep an account your expenses Budget your expenditures a way that it is not detrimental to your wealth and honor Do not compete with others and be envious them If you see a nice dress on a woman or if you become terested some furnishgs that you have seen at a friend's or relative's house do not compel your husband to purchase them which is beyond his fancial means and would force him to borrow Isn't it better to wait until your budget is higher or there is some extra savg to make non-essential purchases? It is mostly the ignorant and selfish women who succumb to extravagance and rivalry These women force their husbands to be under debt and they become exhausted and disgusted tryg to satisfy the unsuitable demands their wives Sometimes the only solution to these problems for the men is to go for a divorce or even commit suicide "a twenty-two year old man stabbed his 19-year old wife to death after he was abused by her the court he said: 'I was married to this woman a year ago At the begng my wife loved me very much But it was not long before she changed and started to humiliate me She would use abusive language with me on every possible occasion and over the smallest issue would make fun me Due to a squt my left eye she used to call me a "bld ass" One day she called me a "bld ass" and I became so furious that I stabbed her fifteen times with. "the Holy Prophet (S) stated: 'The best you among women are those who possess love and affection'."16 "Imam as-Sadiq (a.s.) stated: 'When you love someone let the person know'."17 The Husband's Respect The desire for respect is an herent one but not everyone is willg to give it readily Your husband is contact with many people durg the day while away from home Some may be impolite and sultg him which eventually can upset the person As his wife he expects you to show respect and encouragement at home and thereby boost his trampled ego Moses ben-Maimon called Maimonides (1135 – 1204) was a preement medieval Jewish philosopher and one the greatest Torah scholars and physicians the Middle Ages But one should not forget that all the nutritional values are hidden the simple and natural foods A woman who has learned about cookg would tell you that one could get all the nutritional requirements for the body from simple foodstuff such as fruits cereals Vegetables and dairy products One can cook a meal with these gredients which is both hygienic healthy and cheap Receivg Guests One the evitable tasks every family is to enterta guests at one time or another This is an enjoyable tradition as a result which friendships become closer and people can forget their problems temporarily Keepg company with friends and relatives is one the healthiest pastimes "mrs an 18-year old woman who had run away from home was arrested by the police last night the police station the woman said that after three years she gradually felt that she did not love her husband She said: 'I m used to compare my husband's face with other men and I regretted my with him'." 47 Dear Madam! If you are terested an everlastg ; if you do not want mental distress; and if you want to conduct a normal life then stop beg selfish and forget your va hopes Do not make compliments for other men Do not thk any man other than your husband Do not thk to yourself: "I wish I had married so and so;" "I wish my husband looked like ;" "I wish my husband's job was ;" "I wish " "I wish " "I wish " Theodore "Teddy" Roosevelt (1858 – 1919) was the 26th President the United States (1901 – 1909) Historians typically rank Roosevelt among the top five American presidents. "the Prophet Allah (S) stated: ' Any man who copes with his competent wife the Almighty Allah upon his patience (towards his wife) on every occasion would grant him the reward patience Hadrat Ayyub (a.s)'."60 Now the women are remded few pots: First: Dear Madam! The subject your husband's unfaithfulness like every other subject needs pro As long as his guilt is not proved you do not have any right to convict him Neither law nor one's conscience allows one to accuse someone on the account probability a crime havg taken place Would you not be hurt if someone accused you somethg without any pro? Is it possible to consider your foolish and baseless theories as pro an important crime such as adultery? Divorce is also not a path to comfort and happess for the woman Although she might feel satisfied that she has had her revenge remarryg would not be easy for her She may have to live alone for the rest her life and would probably not even enjoy the presence her children Even if she gets married aga it is not certa that her new husband would comply with her expectations She may even have to brg up the children a man whose wife is dead Therefore neither divorce nor arguments and rows can save the couple But there is a way to salvation The best attitude is that both man and wife give up argug and try to be logical Men have a greater responsibility this matter and fact the key to the solution is their hands Men can through patience and forgiveness save themselves from trouble and also help elimate the element suspicion their wives Now a few words to. "there is a tradition reported that the Holy Prophet (S) was formed a good woman who fasted everyday and worshipped Allah every night but she had an ill-disposed character and would hurt her neighbours with her sharp tongue 'The Holy Prophet (S) stated: 'There is no good her and she is an habitant hell'."33 "the Prophet Allah (S) stated: 'The sustenance a guest is descended from the heavens and upon eatg it the ss the host are forgiven'." 120 "Imam Reza (a.s) stated: ' A generous person eats the food fered to him by others so that they eat his But a miser would not eat the fered food by others lest they eat his'." 121 "The Prophet Allah (S) stated: 'Associatg with friends causes kdness (amongst them)'." 122 After work if you do not have any other busess return home as soon as possible If an urgent matter arises that you should attend to then form your wife and tell her where you are gog and at what time she should expect you back home Then try to be on time If you are comg home then immediately tell your wife the reason Be careful not to lie otherwise she will become suspicious Consult her your affairs Do not hide anythg from her Talk to her about your day Keep her trust you Ask her to question you on any vague subject which may be botherg her Oriana Fallaci (1929 – 2006) was an Italian journalist author and political terviewer A former partisan durg World War II she had a long and successful journalistic career terviewg many ternationally known leaders and celebrities The wife should first all talk to him stly and kdly She should ask him why he came home r than the day before and where he had been She should pursue the matter wisely and patiently at different times and on different occasions If she fds out that he comes back home because his work or attends scientific religious and moral meetgs then she should leave him alone If she feels that he has found a new friend she should fd out who he is If his new friend is a well-mannered person with a clean record then she should not worry It is even recommended that she encourages him his new friendship because a good friend is a great blessg "a twenty-two year old woman who after gettg divorced had taken her child to her parents tried to commit suicide on the night her sister's weddg'." 86 Dear Madam! You should seriously avoid sulkg and not talkg to your husband If you are upset with him be patient Once you are calm and collected talk to him gently about your annoyance with him You can tell him for stance "You sulted me yesterday or you rejected my demand Is it fair that you should treat me this way?" Such an approach not only relaxes you with but also would admonish him He would then try to make up for his wrongdog and would respect you for you r good manners As a result he would review his behaviour and would try to disciple himself Lat America famous figures who married their cous clude proment author and 2010 Nobel Prize laureate Mario Vargas Llosa and former Peruvian beauty queen Mara Mora. Oscar-wng dian filmmaker Satyajit Ray married his. Imam Ali (a.s) one sentence troduced the best woman and expressed the ma purpose Imam Ali (a.s) one sentence troduced the best woman and expressed the ma purpose Imam Ali (a.s) one sentence troduced the best woman and expressed the ma purpose Imam Ali (a.s) one sentence troduced the best woman and expressed the ma purpose Imam Ali (a.s) one sentence troduced the best woman and expressed the ma purpose Imam Ali (a.s) one sentence troduced the best woman and expressed the ma purpose Imam Ali (a.s) one sentence troduced the best woman and expressed the ma purpose Women usually thk that remag silent when comg face to face with their husband's anger would belittle them and that they would lose their respect However the situation is quite the reverse A man who sees no reaction when sultg his wife Would certaly become remorseful He would regard his wife as a lovg woman who despite her ability to retaliate preferred to forgive him His love for his wife would crease many fold He would apologize and thus his wife would earn more respect The Prophet (a.s) Allah stated: ' Any woman who tolerates her husband's bad temper will be rewarded by Allah the same way that He rewarded Asiyah89 daughter Muzahim " 90 Dear lady! if you are terested the stability and peace your family and your husband's contual trust you; if you are concerned about the social rights women; if you are terested the youth's mental health and are worried about their deviation from moral values if you want to take positive steps towards brgg to a halt the seduction women by corrupt men; and if you are seekg Allah's satisfaction by beg a faithful and sacrificg Muslim; then you should observe ic Hijab You should not display your beauty and adornments to strangers be it the house with your close relations or at other social gathergs outside your own home You must cover yourself before your brothers--law and their sons sister--law's husbands aunts' husbands and couss Beg not dressed as per ic Hijab before these people is a s and may also cause great distress to your husband even though he may never mention it O Prophet deed We have made lawful to you your wives to whom you have given their due compensation and those your right hand possesses from what Allah has returned to you [ captives] and the daughters your paternal uncles and the daughters your paternal aunts and the daughters your maternal uncles and the daughters your maternal aunts who emigrated with you and a believg woman if she gives herself to the Prophet [and] if the Prophet wishes to marry her [this is] only for you excludg the [other] believers We certaly know what We have made obligatory upon them concerng their wives and those their right hands possess [but this is for you] order that there will be upon you no discomfort And ever is Allah Forgivg and Merciful. The fathers small babies are also responsible to supply their wives with sufficient good quality food Malnutrition is a serious problem for many people and one should not overlook it or else she must be prepared to pay for the treatment illnesses caused by it You can obta enough formation on this subject from your doctor or red books But as a general rule a nursg mother should consume all types food from meat fruit dairy products to vegetables The important fact is that the mother's milk affects the baby's character and that is why "Imam Ali (a.s) stated: 'Do not choose foolish women to feed (your children) with their milk because the milk makes their base qualities penetrated to. Sam Harris Ph.D (born 1967) is an American non-fiction writer CEO and wner the prestigeous PEN Martha Albrand Award (2005) If your husband's job requires him to wear special clothes which become dirty then wash them frequently Do not grumble and do not tell him bad because his job Do not ask him to change his job It is not easy to change jobs What is wrong with beg a mechanic? any case this is not an important matter and families should not be broken because it "A woman told the judge a court that her husband's job was sellg kerosene and that he always smelled bad and hence she was fed up with the situation'."51 "another woman reported to the court that her husband has not been talkg to her for 15 months and that he was payg for livg expenses through his mother The husband replied that he had enough his wife's ill-disposed attitude which made him decide not to talk to her for 15 months'."30 Most the family conflicts may be resolved with kdness compassion and a pleasant disposition If your husband is unkd if he goes out for dners alone if he is abusive wastes away all his wealth speaks divorce and separation or a number reasons for family conflict there is only one way to resolve them The way is by beg kd and good-natured The results exercisg such behavior are miraculous